The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: every couple faces a certain set of challenges, and the number and type of challenges determine whether your relationship will be merely interesting or out-and-out difficult. At The Astrologer, we've broken down these challenges into three sections: sources of friction, the major differences between you, and the karmic ties from past lives that draw you together today.
On the first two meters, Friction and Differences, a score somewhere in the middle is probably best. Friction can be a good thing -- after all, the same energy that makes you lust after each other also makes you fight. And we all know that a good argument, like good sex, clears the air and lets you know your passion is alive! The same goes for differences between you in the ways that you think and view the world: These contrasts keep the relationship dynamic.
Karma, on the other hand, isn't such a great thing, even if your past-life bonds were positive ones. This lifetime is... Read more
7-10: Open warfare
4-6: The occasional dispute
0-3: Whatever you have to say dear
7-10: Who the $#@% are you, again?
4-6: Some interesting contrasts
0-3: Two Peas in a pod
7-10: New love, same old story
4-6: Total deja-vu
0-3: No past life ties (whew!)
You're mystified with the problems plaguing your relationship, and there's a reason why: Your buttons are getting pushed. Remember: You've been a great communicator, blessed with a silver tongue and an ease with words. Never one to keep your feelings bottled up inside, you've always been able to work out problems by talking them out. But sometimes it's like you and your lover are speaking a different language. You start out trying to have a productive discussion about your issues, and suddenly it turns into a fight. You begin shouting at each other, and then you're not speaking at all. The silence stretches out as both of you refuse to give in. And as soon as it's over the cycle starts all over again. Yet if you only knew what you'd be giving up if you walked away, you'd think twice about abandoning your mate. Though you're both making a mess of things, you and your sweetie could be bringing out the best of each other. Tackle your issues head on -- put aside time to calmly talk through things. Be the peacemaker; tell your lover how much your relationship is worth to you. Giving in feels so good when you get so much in return.
It's lucky for you that you and your mate can laugh, both at each other and at yourselves. That's a strong plus in a relationship that is sometimes challenging. You're so impressed with your mate, and rightly so. Your lover is generous to a fault, stately, wise, and larger than life. You tend to be just a bit egotistic, and your sweetie helps keep you grounded and sane, even as you encourage each other to dream big and go after what you want. But it seems at times that you're at cross purposes. Fate throws obstacles in your way, or each of you makes choices that create chaos and friction. You get annoyed with each other too easily, each accusing the other of being self-centered, overconfident, so driven to meet the goals you've set that you lose sight of the big picture. And you know what? Each of you have a point. You could be bringing out the best in each other, but instead you waste your energy on silly disagreements. So stop the fighting. Throw your attention towards what you love about your lover. And laugh a little. Because once you two start laughing together, you can survive anything.
You're receiving a taste of your own medicine, and you don't like it one bit. You're usually the one who has the upper hand in relationships, sitting in judgment against a partner who you feel doesn't measure up to your high standards. But your passionate sweetie has you in an uproar. Compelling, magnetic, but awfully hard to tame, your lover alternates between periods of aggressive interest, followed by boredom. And you're stuck between the two poles, infuriated but interested. You feel as though you can't get your footing, as though you're at a loss.Does it help to know that your mate doesn't mean to blow hot and cold? Your sweetie often hurts the ones they love, though it isn't intentional. The key to maintaining your sanity is self-confidence. Muster that hardworking practical strength and hunker down on to work on your own projects. Your dear will come hither once it's clear that you're not going to beg and scrape for crumbs of affection. The commitment you've been craving is not out of the question. In fact, you are well-placed to become a permanent fixture if you can bring calm to your tempestuous pas de deux.
It's not that you don't love and adore your precious one with every ounce of your being. It's just that if you have to listen to that superior tone of voice for one more second, you're going to put your fist through a wall. Your matchups have a way of turning into mismatches -- with your expansive, confident partner running roughshod over playful little you. It's possible that your lover is significantly older than you, or in some way more worldly -- better educated? more advanced careerwise? Certainly you feel at a disadvantage next to your sweetie, more like a student listening to a teacher's discourse, or a kid being lectured by a parent than a true partner. On the other hand, there is a lot your lover can teach you if you're able to walk the fine line between willing acolyte and bullied wretch. Demand respect from your partner. A polite tone of voice is a must, and snide remarks won't be tolerated by you. Once you begin standing up for yourself, the balance of power in the relationship will shift, and you can both start enjoying the pleasant buzz of your stimulating love relationship.
Misunderstandings crop up frequently between you and your lover, don't they? It seems as if you always end up bewildered, apologizing for something when you don't always know what you did. Meanwhile, your lover pouts and sulks, wrapped in suspicion. Much of the problem lies in the fact that you don't communicate well. You are distanced from your emotions, wishing to bury yourself in work and your goals instead. And your lover imagines the worst of you, makes up scenarios and then treats you as if you'd erred somehow, or as if you'd made promises that you didn't keep.The two of you are simply going to have to learn to see eye to eye, and you won't do it by ignoring your problems. Gather your courage and start talking. Reveal your feelings. It's uncomfortable for you, but you must begin, since your partner tends to invent information to fill the gaps you left. Though you don't know it, your partner's feelings and desires are much the same as yours and a comfortable familiarity will fill your lives once you break through your block. Go for it -- warmth is a lot more fun than ice.
On paper, you and your love have so much in common -- why can't you seem to make it work? Both of you are big-hearted and loving, willing to give as well as to take. You have a mutual interest in high living; a love of the best in food and furnishings and fashion. Your friends get along, and even your family members have pulled you aside to compliment you on your significant other. So why can't you find a comfortable place? Conversation doesn't flow easily between you. There is awkwardness. Neither one of you is sure of the other and you can't let go and trust.The answer lies in your ability to remain flexible. Yes, there's a certain way you want things to go, but if you're not able to bend your love relationship will surely shatter. Ask your lover for a wish-list and share your own; allow your whole soul to be viewed. Don't hold back. If there are things you want from your lover ask for them, and be willing to give what is asked in return. These conversations are never easy, but you must break through the obstacles between you if you two are to progress.
This is an intense, but not easy, connection. You share a certain power and magnetism, but it manifests itself in different ways. You are the overt one, forcefully reaching for what you want. Your partner is more secretive and controlled, a Machiavellian schemer if truth be told. This mismatch between you always seems to put you on the disadvantage. While you are honest about your aims and feelings, your mate seems to comply with you until the moment when you realize you've played right into your lover's hands and are being controlled like a puppet. That's when you turn on your mate with snarls, perhaps even violence. This is an explosive combination!But you can't ask your partner to be any different. This is just their nature. Instead, be a little more savvy about always wearing your heart on your sleeve. Maybe it's time for you to learn how to play it a little more cool. Your lover won't be able to tweak your insecurities so expertly if you don't display them. Tune into your own goals. Shift your energies towards taking care of yourself. Your partner will appreciate you more when you are a little less available.
Alone, in your most private of moments, you and your lover are quite a match. Your hearts beat as one, your touch makes your mate melt, etc. etc. But out of the bedroom things are not so rosy. There is much dissension between you and your mate, likely centered either on your social lives or careers. You are sensual and expansive, attractive to others and often surrounded by a crowd. Your mate, on the other hand, tends to be more reserved and conservative, needs more alone time, and is a bit punishing. Together you have a tendency to play parent-child, with the one playing the parent switching off from time to time.Both of you must learn to temper your tendencies towards extremism. You actually have much to learn from each other if you can stop fighting each other's influences and instead learn what you can from your differences. You could stand to be more directed; your sweetie could certainly lighten up a bit. Why not call a truce? Let the sweet harmony you feel physically radiate out to the other areas of your relationship as you learn to treat each other with more consideration and kindness.
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