The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: every couple faces a certain set of challenges, and the number and type of challenges determine whether your relationship will be merely interesting or out-and-out difficult. At The Astrologer, we've broken down these challenges into three sections: sources of friction, the major differences between you, and the karmic ties from past lives that draw you together today.
On the first two meters, Friction and Differences, a score somewhere in the middle is probably best. Friction can be a good thing -- after all, the same energy that makes you lust after each other also makes you fight. And we all know that a good argument, like good sex, clears the air and lets you know your passion is alive! The same goes for differences between you in the ways that you think and view the world: These contrasts keep the relationship dynamic.
Karma, on the other hand, isn't such a great thing, even if your past-life bonds were positive ones. This lifetime is... Read more
7-10: Open warfare
4-6: The occasional dispute
0-3: Whatever you have to say dear
7-10: Who the $#@% are you, again?
4-6: Some interesting contrasts
0-3: Two Peas in a pod
7-10: New love, same old story
4-6: Total deja-vu
0-3: No past life ties (whew!)
Sun square Mars
Of course your relationship has issues! The meeting of two such powerful personalities is bound to strike sparks. Your lover likely excites you like no other. This force of nature tends to be impulsive and fearless, lusty and straightforward, with a confidence that rivals your own. Together and apart you stride through your lives with a daring that others can only wonder at. When you are united you live a life writ large -- but unfortunately, your conflicts rival your passion. Titanic arguments, friction, a link that always seems to be teetering on self-destruction -- you never heard love was easy, but does it have to be this hard? One of you has to learn to give. You can't struggle over everything or you'll waste your prodigious energies just treading water rather than moving forward. And since you're the more gentle-natured, it's probably going to be you who has to accept what you cannot change. Stop hounding your lover over issues that are mere annoyances instead of true deal-breakers. If you can manage to quell your troublesome quibbling, you and your lover could really have something special.
Jupiter square Venus
You can be a real pain in the butt, and we wouldn't blame your sweetie for booting you right out the door. Lucky for you, things haven't gotten that bad yet -- but you're pushing your luck. The fact of the matter is that you chose a lover who doesn't harmonize with you naturally. They tend towards the indulgent: fine food, good wine (and plenty of it!), and abundant socializing while your more discerning, intellectual nature cries out for weightier stimulation. You crave a lover who can talk and argue and analyze as well as experience and enjoy. So, feeling stifled in your relationship, you take it out on the one person who loves you more than any other, which just isn't fair.If you can squash your desire to lecture and hector, you can make it past this rough period. Though you refuse to see it, your lover and you actually bring out the best in each other -- you're drawn out of your stolid funk, while your lover's self-indulgent tendencies are curbed in your presence, whether you realize it or not. Try to give your lover a break. Stop trying to control and change them. Ultimately, the love you want is already in your hands.
Venus square Neptune
You've landed in one of those fairy tale relationships, but not in the good way. You bought the myth of love at first sight; hook, line and sinker. But there's no room for reality in your dream world. You're in love with love, not with your lover at all. In fact, you barely have an idea of who your lover really is. You've projected your dreams and fantasies onto a blank surface; what you think you love is only your own false vision. Somewhere in the back of your mind you know that you're living in a fantasy, but you've got your eyes closed. You think that if you just keep on dancing, maybe the music will never stop. Sorry, but it's not that easy, and in fact, cracks have already appeared in the facade. You're starting to have arguments more often, big and little. And you're often blindsided by what your lover says and does. However, the news isn't all bad. You and your partner are actually a beautiful match for each other, with much potential for growth within the relationship and as individuals. It's just going to take a lot more work before you hit the promised land.
Mars square Jupiter
There's something unhealthy about this relationship, and you're just beginning to realize it. What are the unsavory acts or emotions your lover draws from you? Your worst side is emphasized in your sweetie's presence. You become more aggressive, temperamental, egotistical and impatient when you are together, while your lover's tendency towards laziness and excess seems to swell when you're around. It's likely that the two of you have accumulated debt together (perhaps credit card debt, gained from your tendency to spend too much on fripperies), and that you have difficulty keeping to a budget. Even worse, your sharply dissonant views on matters like beliefs, ethics, politics and education makes it difficult for you to find common ground. Nonetheless, there is opportunity here for a fine connection. You share a certain drive and passion, and are both equally openhearted and loving. If you can find a way to compromise, a way to look past your differences and create new habits that serve you both rather than creating problems, this could be a very solid and sweet relationship indeed.
Sun square Mercury
How often have you stared at your sweetie with a gaping jaw, wondering what on earth they could be thinking? Misunderstandings haunt your pairing. Both of you mean well, but at times it's as if you're speaking different languages. And you, with your galloping ego, get all huffy puffy, fueling the friction that's always simmering between the pair of you. You rage. Your lover clams up. A roaring silence stretches between you, both of you feeling too stubborn to break the tension.But the power to fix this relationship lies in your hands. You picked yourself a mercurial, restless, enigmatic lover for a reason -- you find the challenge intriguing and sexy. Go with it. Learn to be comfortable with a bit of mystery. You're never going to wallow in perfect, contented understanding with your sweetie; instead you'll have an exciting lover who stirs you up. Argue and debate as a prelude to passion rather than letting your quibbles put a wedge between you. You could have something very, very hot if you're willing to forego serenity.
Mercury square Sun
You're mystified with the problems plaguing your relationship, and there's a reason why: Your buttons are getting pushed. Remember: You've been a great communicator, blessed with a silver tongue and an ease with words. Never one to keep your feelings bottled up inside, you've always been able to work out problems by talking them out. But sometimes it's like you and your lover are speaking a different language. You start out trying to have a productive discussion about your issues, and suddenly it turns into a fight. You begin shouting at each other, and then you're not speaking at all. The silence stretches out as both of you refuse to give in. And as soon as it's over the cycle starts all over again. Yet if you only knew what you'd be giving up if you walked away, you'd think twice about abandoning your mate. Though you're both making a mess of things, you and your sweetie could be bringing out the best of each other. Tackle your issues head on -- put aside time to calmly talk through things. Be the peacemaker; tell your lover how much your relationship is worth to you. Giving in feels so good when you get so much in return.
Mars square Saturn
First things first. Who's holding out in the love department? Signs point to your partner, who's stingy with affection in the best of times. But certain developments have practically shut the store down, and you're starving for physical contact. It's almost pathetic how far you'll go to try to woo your stubborn sweetie. But it's to no avail. Your partner's better than you at playing mind games. You're outmatched. And though you'd like this one to be The One, you're going to have to iron out your problems if you'd like to move along. One thing you should know: Much of the reason why you're off your game is that you're enacting old dramas from your past. Just who can you think of who withheld love from you in your childhood? And how did you behave, given your high hopes of evening the score? Now do you recognize why you've become what you are? You've got to start unloading your baggage, one piece at a time, before you can unwind the Gordian knot of your woes. If you change your behavior your partner will change as well. But first you have some deep thinking to do.
Mercury square Mercury
This relationship hasn't been easy from the beginning, and frankly, it's a wonder you've made it this far. You and your lover lack common ground. You have different beliefs and attitudes -- it could be you adhere to different political affiliations, or don't share common views on morals and ethics. In any case, your differences of opinion drive you apart. You start out in a friendly debate, but as both of you yak and yak away you cease to listen to each other. You feel you're constantly being interrupted, as if you can't get your words out. You don't see eye-to-eye, and it seems like you never will. But don't be so quick to turn your back on this sweetie. While it's true that things are sometimes strained between you, there is much potential for your future. Though it's hard for you to understand each other, you must keep working on it. In your heart of hearts, you share more than you realize. Keep on plugging. Keep on talking. Try to listen, and hear the intent behind the words as well as what's being said. You could really bring out the best in each other, somehow, someday.
Mars opposite Venus
You move through this relationship like a lumbering bear, rather than a graceful lover. You view your partner as oversensitive, but the truth is that there's something behind your partner's pleas for gentleness. You act too quickly, often choosing to do what's expedient rather than what's right. You ignore the emotional component of your life, preferring to bury your emotions in actions. You slap Band-Aids on problems rather than working for a true solution. At least you're sensitive enough to see the truth. You genuinely don't mean harm; it's just that your lover seems more concerned with good living than getting ahead, and that bugs you. You may also feel jealous of the many who fall under your sexy partner's spell -- beware your jealousy, because it gives your partner a weapon to use against you. Instead, try to talk before you act, and think before you talk. Slow down a little. What's the good in driving through life so quickly you don't have time to stop along the way and enjoy yourself? There could be so much here to savor if you just let yourself.
Mars opposite Neptune
Pity your poor lover, because you can be awfully hard to live with. You're constantly annoyed with your sweetie, viewing your lover's dreamy, drifting nature as lazy and unmotivated. You demand changes, effective yesterday. But what you're asking for is both unreasonable and unkind. You simply didn't chose a lover that is able to keep up with you intellectually and physically. Your lover isn't the mover and shaker type. Instead, you chose yourself a sweet, well-meaning, lovable person who just happens to be a little spacey and emotional. The shame is that you chose with your eyes open, and now you're demanding that things be different.Papering over the problems you've created will be a lot easier if you accept reality and stop wishing for something else. Your lover will always be a little out-there -- and that's part of the charm of your pairing, because it gives you permission to slow down a little. So why don't you? Just relax and allow yourself an idyll. Your lover has much to teach you if you could stop blustering and demanding what you think you want. Embrace the calm. Embrace the dreaminess. Just let go; there's a sweet release awaiting you.
Jupiter opposite Pluto
Your love relationship's not always a comfy place to be. Both you and your sweetie seem more interested in manipulating each other than in being in love. You rage and pout. Your partner slams doors and withholds affection and reassurance. And both of you are driven absolutely crazy. You're feeling so frustrated that you're about to chuck everything in the garbage -- but don't be so quick to discard everything you've built so far. Your lover's a challenging mate, to be sure. But that's exactly what keeps you on your toes, and keeps you coming back for more. Splitting when the going gets rough will only ensure that you repeat the same patterns in your next relationship.What's needed is a dispassionate tallying up of the status of your relationship. What's working in your relationship? What's not? The ability to calmly take your connection's temperature is the first step to solving your problems. Found some issues that need a little work? Great! Get going! Talk about what you both want. Make agreements on how you're going to move from here to there. It's not fun, all this negotiating, but it's the only way to break you out of your rut.
Saturn opposite Sun
A fly on the wall of your love relationship would have no idea why either of you continue on. You view your lover as lazy, arrogant and self-indulgent; your lover looks at you as a negative ol' kill-joy. Neither of you are shy about sharing those viewpoints, either. Each of you tries to play the part of the stern adult, chastising the wayward child. It's fun to feel so above it all, but you're both so busy criticizing each other that you can't see your own role in your problems. You complain and you kvetch, but nothing gets solved. Aren't you sick of being stuck in the same old rut?If so, you're going to have to make some changes. If you keep banging on the same doors, you're going to get the same answer. Try shaking things up instead. Change your attitudes and try taking some direction from your mate. Loosen up. Laugh. Put work off and just have fun. You may be surprised at how much you enjoy yourself -- and how that enjoyment translates into a sweeter, more harmonious connection between you and your mate. You have the power to get things started -- don't let foolish pride stand in your way.
Jupiter opposite Jupiter
The pair of you have much in common, but sometimes that's not a good thing. The problems at the core of your relationship are bound up in trust and tolerance. Neither of you respects the other's viewpoints in matter of politics, values, or your overall world views. Worse, not only do you each believe you're in the right, you try to convert the other to your way of thinking. Fights erupt, and you both say things you don't mean. Finding it difficult to make peace, both of you bluster and roar. Yet very little gets really settled. Even when you manage to smooth things over, neither of you believe things will get any better. And you're certainly not willing to work any harder than your partner is. But it's not all gloomy and fatal. Face it, you've been focusing only on the negatives. There are actually many positive sides to your pairing. Each of you is clever and kindhearted, generous to a fault and loving. If you can simply learn how to give your partner the benefit of the doubt and accept that someone else's views are equally as perfect as your own, you'll get along much better -- with your lover, and those around you in general.
Saturn opposite MercuryYou've been hearing a laundry list of your failures, have you not? You're stiff. Serious. Absolutely no fun. A pain in the tush. And depressing to boot. It would all be unforgivable, if it weren't true. But your partner's no prize pig either, cursed with the knack of always saying the wrong thing at the wrong time, embarrassing you in front of friends and coworkers. What's interesting about the pair of you is that you hate in each other what you fear in yourselves. Your mate is well aware of a certain tendency towards sloth and slack, and hates the way your drive and stick-to-itiveness points up those failings. Meanwhile, you recognize in yourself a lack of lightness and fun.Instead of criticizing each other for what you lack, why not pass on your strengths? If you can bend a little, you can take on a few of your partner's quick, easy ways, be a little easier to approach. You could have more fun, in many areas of your life. Your mate, on the other hand, could stand a little more discipline and responsibility. Stop resisting. Relax. There's nothing that'll harm you here.
Jupiter opposite Saturn
When you first met your lover, you were very attracted to the seriousness you intuited. Here was someone who could match you on an intellectual level, someone who could go the long haul with you. And you chose well. Indeed, your sweetie is stable and trustworthy. But it doesn't seem like you're having a lot of fun. The problem is that you're trying to mold your lover into someone who's, well, someone who's just like you. Though you always have big plans, your execution's a little lax. You'd prefer to dream the day away on the couch than actually get up and go. And it bugs you madly that your sweetie's always calling attention to this fact.But face it: Even though you don't like the kick in the tush, it still sends you in the directions you know you should be going. It just isn't as fun as you'd like. If you want to stay where you are, it's time to stop grousing and buckle down instead. Don't try to sabotage your lover's hardworking nature; instead allow their industriousness spur your own industrious side. It'll bring you nothing but good in the long run.
Mars quincunx Sun
Now here's a spicy meatball. Others envy your relationship, and they should, because what you have here is something pretty hot. You are equally attuned towards the pleasures of the flesh: sensual, lusty, sexy idylls can occur in the morning, noon, or night. Just being next to your lover is a delicious dream, and as you snuggle and drowse you're in heaven. But out of the bedroom, things aren't as rosy. Though you share many goals and interests, you just aren't as comfortable as you should be by this point in your relationship. You can't relax and let go. Your partner is reluctant to commit. Relax. Though your tendency is to move, to do, to go, your love relationship is a fruit on the vine that just needs a bit of ripening. Must you always be in such a hurry? Keep a lid on your rampaging ambition for once, and just enjoy what you've got. Be in the moment. Don't plan ahead; instead, just think about today. The friction between you will evaporate if you can start a chain reaction: Love, and bask, and laugh, and delight in what you've got instead of chafing.
Mars quincunx Uranus
Does your lover have the roaming eye? Are those butterflies of suspicion in your belly? Or are you just all worked up over what you imagine to be the truth? The main problem in your relationship is that you, in your haste to activate your attraction, have chosen to grab on to a live wire. Your partner has a history of tumult, of disruptions, of passionate but unreliable love affairs. You've got excitement to spare, but you're missing the security and calm you gave up to follow your lover thither. You may feel as if you're doing all the giving while your lover does all the taking, or as if you're far more attached to this relationship than your sweetie is. Sorry: Even with all your force and drive and might, you can't harness this hurricane. Your lover will continue to shake things up, to be quicksilver rather than a rock. You may have to worry about infidelities, and you certainly won't be getting any balm for your insecurities. So what do you have? A hot, hot lover who's so enthralling that it's worth the shaking-up. Stop demanding what you cannot have, and just hang on and enjoy the ride -- it's a stunner.
No conjunctions
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Fortunately, with no difficult conjunctions between you, your relationship is bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there's not a strong connection between you. But it's nice, isn't it, to be able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who choose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Don't you always wonder about them? What do they think will happen if they're not together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation is not a problem for you two; in fact, you may do it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this is surely true of you and your partner. You take great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each be so wrapped up in your own orbit that you suddenly realize that days or even weeks have gone by without you two sharing a full day together.Don't let that happen. Use the previous sections of this report to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two have chosen to be together, and likewise, you can choose to grow together.
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