The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: every couple faces a certain set of challenges, and the number and type of challenges determine whether your relationship will be merely interesting or out-and-out difficult. At The Astrologer, we've broken down these challenges into three sections: sources of friction, the major differences between you, and the karmic ties from past lives that draw you together today.
On the first two meters, Friction and Differences, a score somewhere in the middle is probably best. Friction can be a good thing -- after all, the same energy that makes you lust after each other also makes you fight. And we all know that a good argument, like good sex, clears the air and lets you know your passion is alive! The same goes for differences between you in the ways that you think and view the world: These contrasts keep the relationship dynamic.
Karma, on the other hand, isn't such a great thing, even if your past-life bonds were positive ones. This lifetime is... Read more
7-10: Open warfare
4-6: The occasional dispute
0-3: Whatever you have to say dear
7-10: Who the $#@% are you, again?
4-6: Some interesting contrasts
0-3: Two Peas in a pod
7-10: New love, same old story
4-6: Total deja-vu
0-3: No past life ties (whew!)
Venus square Sun
Mmmm, yummy. Your relationship is the kind of warm place puppies like to curl up in. Both you and your sweetie are kindhearted and loving, sensual and sexy. Other people envy what you've got. But at the same time, there are cracks on the inside of your cocoon that don't show from the outside. You can be a bit of a stomper and a door-slammer -- and you've never been known for your fidelity. Think about it: if you actually have to set up rules for what's cheating and what's not, you're skirting close to a dangerous line. Your lover, on the other hand, can be self-righteous, vain, and impulsive. In a lot of ways, you rub each other the wrong way, picking stupid fights with each other, viewing each other's flaws with contempt. The answer lies in good old-fashioned hard work. Roll up your sleeves and schedule some time to work on your issues. Actual changes in your habits and behaviors are needed this time, not just a whole lot of hot air and empty promises. The reward for the work will be a deepened connection that'll grow with time. The penalty for doing nothing will be a crash and burn.
Mars square Sun
Do you smell smoke? Because you and your lover are a potent -- some would say dangerous -- combination. At best you are partners in crime, both blessed with a verve and drive that propels you through life with the force of a bullet shot out of a gun. At worst, you're deadly enemies. You irritate each other, egg each other on to new heights of ego and unreason. Both of you perform for each other -- I'm the most powerful! No, me! There is constant friction between you as both of you fight for the upper hand. Even something as simple as choosing what to eat for dinner or what movie to see becomes a battle. Your friends dread being around the pair of you at times because you're so warlike. At worst, one or both of you can be abusive. The answer lies in dialing down your competitive streak. Don't bait your lover, or rise to bait. Consciously try to calm down and consider your words and actions. Don't react impulsively. Instead, slow down and think carefully about your ultimate goals, not just your emotions at a particular moment. With a little more care and attention, your relationship can swing from a constant battle to a sparkling idyll.
Mars square Mercury
Nervous intensity is at the center of your relationship, and it's an awfully shaky ground to build upon: emotional quicksand instead of solid, dependable rock. You often find yourself furious with your lover, who blurts out the worst things at the most inopportune moments (and like as not in front of the worst people -- best to keep this lover away from your boss!). Too often have you been wounded with the unvarnished truth. Now, tragically, you're apt to discount what your lover says instead of taking helpful hints on board. The smallest issues seem to erupt into big arguments; the two of you misunderstand each other's intentions and actions. But it's not all bad news. The reason your relationship has lasted this long is because you can bring out the best in each other. The competitiveness simmering under the surface keeps things interesting, sparkling. There's an energy between you that can't be denied. Try approaching each situation with calm. Talk slowly. Listen more. If a little cool breeze can blow into your relationship, it might make it easier to relax rather than reacting impulsively.
Mercury square Uranus
There's an old Chinese proverb that goes like this: 'May you live in interesting times.' On the surface it seems like a blessing. But you of all people can confirm that it can also be a curse. The one who's claimed your heart is exciting all right -- and completely unpredictable. You could come home at night to find your lover's changed the curtains in the living room or oh, changed careers and made plans to move to Antarctica. You like excitement as much as the next person, but this is ridiculous. You're having a lot of trouble managing the day-to-day problems, because who has time to figure out what day to visit Uncle Fred in the hospital when you're arguing over giant life-changing issues.But you're going to have to roll with it if you're going to make this thing work. Don't ask for stability from a live wire. Instead, enjoy the passion and intensity that's the silver lining of the rather dramatic life you've chosen. You may not have quiet nights snuggling on the sofa, but you will have the kind of love relationship that makes for great stories -- and great highs.
Mars opposite Neptune
Pity your poor lover, because you can be awfully hard to live with. You're constantly annoyed with your sweetie, viewing your lover's dreamy, drifting nature as lazy and unmotivated. You demand changes, effective yesterday. But what you're asking for is both unreasonable and unkind. You simply didn't chose a lover that is able to keep up with you intellectually and physically. Your lover isn't the mover and shaker type. Instead, you chose yourself a sweet, well-meaning, lovable person who just happens to be a little spacey and emotional. The shame is that you chose with your eyes open, and now you're demanding that things be different.Papering over the problems you've created will be a lot easier if you accept reality and stop wishing for something else. Your lover will always be a little out-there -- and that's part of the charm of your pairing, because it gives you permission to slow down a little. So why don't you? Just relax and allow yourself an idyll. Your lover has much to teach you if you could stop blustering and demanding what you think you want. Embrace the calm. Embrace the dreaminess. Just let go; there's a sweet release awaiting you.
Jupiter opposite Pluto
Your love relationship's not always a comfy place to be. Both you and your sweetie seem more interested in manipulating each other than in being in love. You rage and pout. Your partner slams doors and withholds affection and reassurance. And both of you are driven absolutely crazy. You're feeling so frustrated that you're about to chuck everything in the garbage -- but don't be so quick to discard everything you've built so far. Your lover's a challenging mate, to be sure. But that's exactly what keeps you on your toes, and keeps you coming back for more. Splitting when the going gets rough will only ensure that you repeat the same patterns in your next relationship.What's needed is a dispassionate tallying up of the status of your relationship. What's working in your relationship? What's not? The ability to calmly take your connection's temperature is the first step to solving your problems. Found some issues that need a little work? Great! Get going! Talk about what you both want. Make agreements on how you're going to move from here to there. It's not fun, all this negotiating, but it's the only way to break you out of your rut.
Sun quincunx VenusIt's not that you don't admire your lover. On the contrary, you recognize the qualities that draw you hither: beauty, kindness, a sweet-natured desire to connect deeply with others. But along with those good points come some bad ones, and that's what has you all riled up. You're annoyed, even contemptuous, over what you view as laziness. Your lover is a gentle dreamer, and you're a mover and a shaker. And that bugs you. Must you do everything yourself to get things done right? What's gonna light a fire under your sweetie's tail to get something moving?Sorry to let you in on this, but almost no one can measure up to your high standards. And although you don't realize it, your lover's relaxed nature is exactly what a striver like you really needs. You could be getting the nurturing and affection that provides the healing yin to your raging yang, if you could just relax enough to enjoy it. Cut your lover some slack. Even though their way of doing things may not be your way, that doesn't mean it's wrong. Focus on your lover's more admirable qualities rather than what's missing and you'll find you start appreciating what you've got.
Mercury quincunx Mars
Other people envy you and your lover, because the two of you are equally lively and bright and seem so well-matched. You're a sparkling power couple, both blessed with magnetism and drive. But those jealous of your pairing aren't on the inside and thus don't see the problems. In truth, you and your sweetie have trouble finding common ground. Though you stimulate each other mentally, sometimes all the stimulation turns into irritation. You find it difficult to relax with each other, to go easily into that good night. You may have a lot of friction, or just a lot of awkward silences. The key lies in de-emphasizing your differences and playing up what you share in common. You both have an interest in politics, current events, debating controversial issues. Try to focus on these types of topics when you're with your sweetie, rather than devolving into discussions into what's wrong with your relationship, which have a way of turning sour fast. Oddly enough, even as you ignore your problems in favor of just enjoying one another's company, the problems will dwindle, and eventually disappear. Nice!
Sun quincunx Saturn
You're the kind of person who's driving through life looking in the rearview mirror. Yeah, your past isn't ideal. People haven't always treated you as kindly as they could have, and your parents were anything but supportive. But why do you marinate in your misery? That victim label doesn't flatter you, you know. You're such a vital, vibrant soul; don't let your sunshine be dimmed by your rage -- and yes, rage is what it is, masquerading as hurt. Now, speaking of dim, it is true you've chosen a rather murky lover. Serious where you are lighthearted, weighty and solid where you can be impetuous and moving in too many directions. Your lover pulls out your best qualities simply by acting as a reality check. Yet your disparities trouble you. You don't feel as connected, or as comfortable as you could. The two of you can't seem to relax together into something sweet and easy. But if you can find a way to unload some of your emotional baggage, to become more comfortable in your own skin, you'll find more ease in your pairing.
Mercury quincunx Mercury
One of you sure has a bug in your butt, because you're pick-pick-picking away at each other. If it's your partner, you should be pitied; it's no fun being henpecked to death or worn down by slow torture of the emotional variety (think the drip-drip-drip of water torture!). But if it's you doing the constant criticism thing, just what are you playing at? You've got a good thing going, why ruin it by nagging and whining? It may seem as if you and your lover speak a different language. Neither of you can make sense of what the other is saying.That being said, you're actually in a good place to move ahead, if you can get through your rough patches. Patience is, as always, vital. Both of you tend to move too quickly, speak without thinking, do things impulsively. Slow things down a little. Make time for each other. Practice working out your problems in regularly scheduled venting sessions, rather than just fighting whenever, wherever. Before long, each of your mindsets will expand enough to hold the other's viewpoint -- and the skills you learn smoothing the path of this partnership will stand you in good stead for the rest of your life.
No conjunctions
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Fortunately, with no difficult conjunctions between you, your relationship is bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there's not a strong connection between you. But it's nice, isn't it, to be able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who choose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Don't you always wonder about them? What do they think will happen if they're not together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation is not a problem for you two; in fact, you may do it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this is surely true of you and your partner. You take great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each be so wrapped up in your own orbit that you suddenly realize that days or even weeks have gone by without you two sharing a full day together.Don't let that happen. Use the previous sections of this report to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two have chosen to be together, and likewise, you can choose to grow together.
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