The Inner War Zone, Projections and Relationship Karma Meters:
You want the nitty-gritty, right?
You're ready to know the real deal when it comes to your own true nature and psychological issues... the ones that prevent you from finding and holding on to that ideal love you dream of.
Reading your Love Life Remedy report will give you that in-depth picture, but these three meters show an at-a-glance view of the lessons you have yet to learn.
Remember, whether your scores on the meters are high or low, you're in good company: We ALL have plenty of emotional baggage that comes from past relationships, our childhoods, and even past lives.
And we ALL have a lot of room for improvement when it comes to changing our lives for the better and improving our relationships, including our love connections.
7-10 Repressed anger, defensiveness and a seriously short fuse can turn your love affairs into an all-out war.
4-6 You've got some issues and inner conflicts to work through, but who doesn't?
0-3 You're so laid back in your relationships it could actually be a problem.
7-10 Seeing all sides of every issue is actually a detriment. You don't know what to believe!
4-6 You know your own mind, but you can see their point too. That's a good thing.
0-3 You see your sweetie as they really are...but do you understand them?
7-10 It's beyond time to work through your baggage from past relationships, or even past lives. Try moving forward!
4-6 Some of your relationship issues have been around for a while. It's time to sort them out now.
0-3 Good news: It's not just a new affair with the same old story. But can you compromise?
You're a picture of loyalty, and that's admirable. Once in a relationship -- not an easy task in itself, due to your shy and vulnerable nature -- you'd no sooner leave than you'd sell your favorite piece of furniture. Too bad you forgot to warn your sweetie about your 'cold spells.' You're not unlike a turtle; you're just fine as long as you feel safe and comfortable, basking in the sun, arms and legs stretched out. But the moment anything happens, you snatch yourself inwards, withdraw under your shell, and there's no getting you out until you feel comfortable once again, at some undetermined point in the future. In real life, this translates to moodiness, cold shoulders and sealed lips, and it's no mystery why someone else would quickly get tired of such behavior.It's not so bad out here, Cancer. Your ideal partner will provide a warm and safe place for you to express your fears, but you'll never know that if you don't come out and try. It will take a big leap of faith, but it's one that will pay off in spades for you.
Isn't it great, always being right? You're so confident of your ideas, so inspiring in your speech, so convincing to others, that there's really no reason for anyone else to hold the microphone, is there? You may as well keep it, because as soon as you're finished expressing yourself, you're going to direct the group in what to do next. That's why your past lovers have nicknamed you 'Sarge.' Which, frankly, works for you. That way, fewer people challenge you, because you don't like being challenged. Just who do they think they are, anyway? Well, maybe they're someone important to you who just happens to think a little differently. They're not trying to shoot you down, despite what you think. They're just questioning one of your unquestioned concepts, and it would be to your benefit if you would listen. If you didn't cling so stubbornly to your own ideas, you could expand your mind with some new ones.
You may be emotionally cautious when first entering a relationship, but once a person is in your heart, it's for keeps. You feel deeply committed to them, and herein lies your vulnerability, for, you fear, what if they aren't so committed to you? Your natural reaction is to start taking care of them, not only out of your own natural inclination to do so, but also in order to keep them around. Quickly, an energy imbalance develops. Once again, you give more than you get -- much more. Extricate yourself from such relationships immediately. Resolve to restrain your love until you find someone deserving of it. Your ideal mate will have a heart as tender as yours and will not wander from your protective gaze. You've earned a love like this, one that will provide you comfort instead of worry, a person who will take care of you as well as you take care of them. You've got caretaking energy to spare, so spend it on a pet, or in your garden, tenderly nurturing living things.
You're a perfect example of the principle that the most important sex organ is the brain. Your very imaginative, slightly kinky side has no doubt turned heads, both toward you and away from you. Previous lovers have had similar notions about fun and sex, so you have quite the eclectic collection of exes, many of whom you remain friends with to this day. Your capacity to detach with no previous notice has left some former lovers floundering, though, since basically you dumped them without prior warning. Very few people can handle that situation well, so for their sake, stay honest and in the moment if everything is not going swimmingly.Here's another hint, too: Leave your authority issues out of the bedroom. Everyone knows that you don't like being told what to do, but few know how much you enjoy bossing others around! Give it a rest, and focus on finding another person who is as freewheeling and independent as you are. Spend a lot of time talking about sex before you actually do it; believe it or not, this is the best foreplay for you!
Are you sitting down? Don't be shocked, but the emotional intimacy you crave can't come from sex alone. Oh, a wild night might give you a brief glimpse of that intensity of closeness that you seek, but truly profound relationships require an alignment of more than just body parts. If you're honest with yourself, you already know this by now. If you're not, you may still be engaging in short-term hookups, seeking to feed a hunger that will never be satisfied in this way. So stop trying.Now, it's a good thing to want a deeply emotional relationship, and you're willing to sacrifice a lot to find it. You seek connection on the most fundamental, basic level, and when you achieve that, your sex life will become truly legendary, for finally you'll be firing on all cylinders. Your ideal partner will be able to meet you on the emotional level, honoring your need for safety and security and appreciating the vulnerability you risk for the sake of the relationship. And -- we're talking ideals, here -- they'll be in good enough shape physically to keep up with you in the bedroom, where you are more than anxious to express your affection!
Think back on your most recent relationships. How often did you utter the words 'I love you'? If you can count the number of times on the fingers of one hand, you have a big clue as to a major part of your relationship problems. You don't like to express emotions. Your thought processes are geared toward evidence, logic and what can be tangibly perceived with the senses. Feelings frustrate you, because they cannot be measured, calculated or based in historical fact. They are ephemeral, inconstant and by their very nature, impossible to confirm by facts or figures.Not everyone is in the same mental boat as you. Most people like to have the liberty to express their feelings at any given time. After you've required them to quantify their emotions, they don't stick around to tell you how they feel anymore; they move on to greener pastures. You're smarter than you realize; give yourself some credit, and stop expecting all forms of communication to be factual or cerebral. Create a pathway from your heart to your mind and articulate your feelings. You, and your partner, will be glad you did.
You and your generation are upsetting the apple cart when it comes to relationships: You're forging a whole new way of engaging with others on a romantic level. You've grown up to witness a huge surge in the divorce rate, and you resolved early on to do things differently from your parents. You may decline to participate in long-term relationships altogether, or you may completely rewrite the rules of marriage, factoring in the need for freedom within a relationship. Open marriages, having multiple partners at a time or having different partners for different personal needs are all ways of revolutionizing the world of partnership and romance. Your own relationship history will reflect the changes in the world around you. You and those born around the same time as you will leave a mark on the world that will last for many decades.
You and your generation idealize freedom and adventure more than the stability of a single long-term relationship. You are much more likely to enjoy a series of relationships, often with people who are radically different from you -- perhaps people from another country or a completely different culture. You appreciate the exposure to habits and beliefs that diverge from your own, because in this way you learn deeply about people from different places on earth. In your eyes, there is no better way to expand your consciousness than to do it through another person's eyes. Relationships are roads to learning for you; and there are many roads to learning, are there not?
You and your generation were born just before, spent your formative years in or came around just after the revolutionary 1960s, and in many ways, you carry forward this revolutionary energy into the future. You expect a lot from life and from your romantic partners; perfection would suit you just fine! Unfortunately, Real Life rarely delivers perfection, so you may spend your life in fruitless pursuit of it. Yet while you may never find the perfection you seek, you'll make the world a much better place in the meantime. Your relationships should fulfill a practical need as well as romantic ones; your best partnerships will have goals above and beyond your romantic liaison.
Despite your eternal optimism, you've got a troubled relationship history. Your previous matchups have had a way of turning into mismatches -- with your expansive, confident partners running roughshod over playful little you. It's possible that your lovers were significantly older than you, or in some way more worldly -- better educated? more advanced career-wise? Certainly you felt at a disadvantage next to them, more like a student listening to a teacher's discourse or a kid being lectured by a parent than a true partner. That, coupled with your tendency to blurt out anything that crosses your mind, has left you feeling like a child on a leash.Don't give up on relationships, though, because there's a lot your ideal partner can teach you if you're able to walk the fine line between willing acolyte and bullied wretch. Demand respect from others. Determine within yourself that a polite tone of voice is a must, and snide remarks won't be tolerated. Once you begin standing up for yourself, the balance of power in your relationships will shift, and you can start enjoying the pleasant buzz of a stimulating love relationship.
Yours are the kind of romances that make for great stories later -- in other words, they haven't always been easy. You and your lovers were drawn to each other right from the start. It always happened so fast. One minute you were on your first date, and the next you were on the phone to your best friend, saying, 'This is the ONE!' You kept falling into love so quickly that you didn't look where you were headed, and therein lies the problem. You keep choosing such darned tricky, unstable sweeties. They are full of electric excitement, of drama and blistering, little-hairs-standing-up-on-the-back-of-your-neck passion. But as you've no doubt found out, they also signify upheaval, disruption, a heaping helping of the wrong kind of excitement.Well, if nothing else, you've had yourself one heck of a ride so far. And if you're willing to hang on, accepting all the bumps and jolts that are sure to come your way, more thrills will be yours. One thing you can say for your relationships -- they're absolutely never boring. For best results, learn to enjoy the wild ride.
There's something unhealthy about your relationships, and you're just beginning to figure things out. What are the unsavory acts or emotions your past lovers have triggered in you? Your worst side has been emphasized in the presence of your lovers; you became more aggressive, temperamental, egotistical and impatient, while their tendencies toward laziness and excess seemed to swell when you were around. You may still be paying off the accumulated debt you accrued with past partners (perhaps credit card debt, gained from your tendency to spend too much on fripperies), and you may still have difficulty keeping to a budget. Even worse, your sharply dissonant views on matters like beliefs, ethics, politics and education meant that you had difficulty finding common ground with past partners.Nonetheless, opportunities abound for a fine connection. You have a certain drive and passion, and are openhearted and loving. Potential lovers surround you. If you can find a way to compromise, a way to look past the differences you have and create new habits that serve you both rather than creating problems, then you can have a very solid and sweet relationship indeed.
What a crank you are! Picky, combative, aggro: If it weren't for fighting, you wouldn't talk at all. OK, OK, that's not strictly true, but there is an awful lot of friction in your relationships. You see your lovers as aggressive and too hair-trigger; they see you as grandiose and yappy, like a little dog with a big bark. It's likely that when your frequent fights occurred, previous partners just wanted to come up with a quick solution and then move on, while you wanted to belabor the point. All-night bitch sessions were -- notice the past tense -- your specialty, were they not? And your lovers' response was to storm off and slam doors? Neither of you had any patience, and when you got started on one of your fighting jags, they could last for days -- or weeks! But hey, on the plus side, you've got all the ingredients for lively relationships. You need to pick yourself an equal. No wilting lilies for you; you must chose a lover who can keep up with you in every way. And ultimately, the challenge is worth it. The key to calming your emotional storms is patience. If you can learn to slow down, calm down, listen to others and form compromises instead of issuing orders, you're in for one hell of a ride.
When you got together with your previous partners, you were seriously attracted to the seriousness you intuited in them. They were your match on an intellectual level, and you felt they could go the long haul with you. And you chose well; indeed, your sweeties were stable and trustworthy. But it didn't seem like you were having a lot of fun. In fact, the more you tried to have fun, the more serious they got! The problem was that you were trying to mold your lover into someone who was, well, just like you. Though you always have big plans, your execution's a little lax. You prefer to dream the day away on the couch rather than actually get up and go. And it bugged you madly that your sweeties were always calling attention to this fact. Notice that they're not around anymore, and you're still spinning days away on that couch.Face it: Even though you don't like to be kicked in the tush, it still sends you in the direction you know you should be going. It just isn't as fun as you'd like. If you want to stay where you are, keep grousing. If you want to improve, buckle down instead. Don't try to sabotage your ideal lover's hardworking nature; instead, allow their industry to spur your industrious side. It'll bring you nothing but good in the long run.
Misunderstandings cropped up frequently between you and past lovers, didn't they? It seemed as if you always ended up bewildered, apologizing for something when you didn't even know what you did wrong. Meanwhile, your lover pouted and sulked, wrapped in suspicion. Much of the problem was in the fact that you didn't communicate very well. You were distanced from your emotions, burying yourself in work and your goals instead. And your lover imagined the worst of you, making up scenarios and then treating you as if you had erred somehow, or as if you'd made promises that you wouldn't keep.You are simply going to have to learn how to see eye-to-eye with someone else, and you won't do it by ignoring your problems. Gather your courage and start talking. Reveal your feelings. It's uncomfortable for you, but you must begin, since your partners tend to invent information to fill the gaps you leave. Though you don't know it, your ideal partner's feelings and desires are much the same as yours and a comfortable familiarity will fill your lives once you break through your block. Go for it -- warmth is a lot more fun than ice.
Oh, you poor thing. You do try so hard, don't you, to act right, to be calm, to not drive others away with your unexpected anger? You're always earnestly striving to improve yourself, tune up your relationships and make yourself clear. You're convinced that if others could only understand your point of view, if you could only find the right way to express yourself, that all the awkwardness between you and everyone else would disappear. Sorry, but it's not that easy. Think of it like this: You're a square peg trying to fit into a round hole. You struggle with arrogance, jealousy, insecurity -- all the qualities you know make you less attractive to the types who turn you on and that drive away anyone who does agree to date you. You've got a good match out there and you know it. But you can't seem to stop trying to explain yourself once and for all to anyone who will listen. Nothing you can say will work the trick, though. The key is in your behavior. Are you delightful to be around, loving, giving, interested in what your date says and does? No? If not, nothing you can say will work. The best way to get positive attention from others is to give plenty of it yourself.
I hope you have enjoyed the valuable insight, wisdom and guidance of this astrology report. You might be a little curious about astrology and perhaps wondering how an astrologer can know so much about you!
Astrology is a mathematical system. It's all about applying meaning to numbers, or more specifically, finding meaning in the movements of the planets around the Sun, as viewed from our perspective here on earth. These planetary movements are easily captured and recorded with measurements, calculations, angles and so on.
That's why astrology works so well with computers, whose programs are also based on numbers and formulas. In 'the old days' -- thousands of years ago, when astrology was first recorded -- those early astrologers had to painstakingly observe the heavens and catalog their observations for the next generation of astrologers to build upon. Thank goodness for the computer age! Now we can simply use computers to make those calculations quickly and pull just the applicable pieces of information. Now, astrology is instant, based upon thousands of years of observations obtained through careful methodology.
Interpretations of planetary positions are based in part on ancient Greek and Roman mythology, but your astrological report is unique, describing you and you only. Even in the case of twin siblings, their birth charts differ from each other's in at least a few ways. And besides, no one amounts to just a simple interpretation of their birth chart; everyone's personality is complex. Your astrological report leaves plenty of room for variations based on your free will, personal growth and transformation over a lifetime.
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