The Inner War Zone, Projections and Relationship Karma Meters:
You want the nitty-gritty, right?
You're ready to know the real deal when it comes to your own true nature and psychological issues... the ones that prevent you from finding and holding on to that ideal love you dream of.
Reading your Love Life Remedy report will give you that in-depth picture, but these three meters show an at-a-glance view of the lessons you have yet to learn.
Remember, whether your scores on the meters are high or low, you're in good company: We ALL have plenty of emotional baggage that comes from past relationships, our childhoods, and even past lives.
And we ALL have a lot of room for improvement when it comes to changing our lives for the better and improving our relationships, including our love connections.
7-10 Repressed anger, defensiveness and a seriously short fuse can turn your love affairs into an all-out war.
4-6 You've got some issues and inner conflicts to work through, but who doesn't?
0-3 You're so laid back in your relationships it could actually be a problem.
7-10 Seeing all sides of every issue is actually a detriment. You don't know what to believe!
4-6 You know your own mind, but you can see their point too. That's a good thing.
0-3 You see your sweetie as they really are...but do you understand them?
7-10 It's beyond time to work through your baggage from past relationships, or even past lives. Try moving forward!
4-6 Some of your relationship issues have been around for a while. It's time to sort them out now.
0-3 Good news: It's not just a new affair with the same old story. But can you compromise?
You know the old saying: When the going gets tough, the Sadge gets going. Gee, maybe that's why you've got a whole string of former relationships on your resume; the minute any problems cropped up, you bailed, often running off with your latest foreign flame or to some far-flung country. Your intense need for freedom has severe commitment-phobic ramifications, and there's nothing like a little disagreement or misunderstanding to bring them to the fore. Even when you stick around for the argument, you say such shocking things that your partner bails on you. 'There,' you say to yourself, 'it's on them now.'Don't shoot your arrow just yet. You've got yourself convinced that you can't have both a lover and the freedom you crave, but you're not seeing all the possibilities. You're not the only one who needs room to move, you know. The key for you is to find someone not unlike yourself. Your ideal partner will have similar freedom needs, and together, you'll be able to weave a relationship that provides both love and companionship, and the liberty to come and go at will.
Corporate structure? Chains of command? You grasp these concepts all too well. Trouble is, you've tried to import them into your relationships, and as you now realize, it hasn't been a very successful strategy. As a matter of fact, it's been a disaster! Past lovers have tried to complain about your need to always be right, and you stared at them blankly, uncomprehending. Or worse yet, when they tried to explain their feelings, you rolled your eyes at their emotional display. And when they huffed off, you were left holding the empty bag of your relationship. Hmm, who's in charge now?There's a better way. Buried under your hardworking intellect is a warm heart to which you give precious little expression. From time to time it's a good idea to lock the analytical mind off into a closet somewhere and hide the key. Give your softer side a chance to come out. Take a stab at telling someone close how you feel. It will seem like a foreign language at first, but one that your partner readily understands, and delights in.
It's not hard to see why you've had problems in past relationships. Many have felt the pull of your charisma and animal attraction. Some lovers, you scare away with your intense gaze and fervent passion. Some are alarmed by your focused attention on them. Others like the intensity and passion, but can't handle your possessiveness or complex emotions. Only the bravest are willing to commit forever to you, though that's what you truly want in your heart of hearts. Will you get it? There's no reason why not. All you need is to find someone who can match your intensity, and who is willing to meet you halfway in the realms of commitment and desire. Won't they be the lucky one! For it is in these profound, we're-in-this-for-the-long-haul connections that your deepest passion truly blossoms. Together, you'll be determined to make it last, and will ignite the most potent thrills that either of you has ever known. This will be well worth the wait.
What did your past lovers have a problem with? Well, for starters, you couldn't sit still for more than five minutes. That made dinner-and-a-movie dates quite a challenge. Then there was your short little span of attention, the one that made it impossible for you to really listen and hear when they were pouring their hearts out to you. Finally, they got annoyed with the way you'd just blurt anything out, anytime, anywhere. It got so they couldn't take you out into public for fear of what you'd say.Is there hope for you? Certainly there is. Not that we're blaming your previous partners, but can't you find someone a little more lighthearted, someone who can bring out your playful side and focus on the fast-thinking, quick-talking person instead of on your deficits? Doing any type of physical activity together is good, so keep the jogging shoes or bike close at hand. Intellectual pursuits work, too, since they keep your mind busy. Your key to more successful relationships is to bring the lighter side to the fore.
You're not afraid to go where others fear to tread. You're a pioneer, a groundbreaker, a trendsetter. You're happiest when you're the center of attention. The trouble with your pesky past relationships is that you've had to share the limelight, which doesn't come easily for you. Oh, you've tried to work with it. You tried to choose someone who needed an equal amount of attention, but you got resentful. You tried someone else who disappeared into the background, and you got bored. This presents quite the dilemma for you, does it not?Pride prevents you from giving up, and why should you, anyway? You've got a lot to offer your ideal partner. You've got the self-confidence to attract someone wonderful, as long as that confidence does not develop into hubris, which would prevent you from recognizing a potential Perfect Partner to begin with. You know what you want, and you recognize it when you see it; you're not willing to compromise on the qualities you're looking for in a lover. You're most likely to meet this lover in your day-to-day activities and business affairs, so the search isn't limited to evenings and weekends. Keep your eyes peeled for that special someone. You'll have the initiative and gumption to get things going.
Your difficulties in love come not from without, but from within yourself. Instead of feeling confident in yourself, building a strong ego or developing your obvious capacity for leadership, you flog yourself constantly for not being good enough. When others compliment you, you don't believe them. When someone indicates interest in you, you may not even notice it. Oddly enough, you may act as though you are quite superior to others, thus appearing stuck up and aloof. This mask of superiority is merely a defense mechanism, designed to throw others off the track. You're sure that they'll discover at any moment that you're a fraud.But you're not! Stop being so hard on yourself. Relax those elevated expectations and give yourself a break. In fact, you have an amazing amount to offer your ideal partner. If you will but open your heart a little for someone to love you, you'll immediately feel better. Bit by bit, love will flow stronger and stronger. You have an amazing capacity for love, commitment and loyalty. All you have to do is believe that it's possible.
Have you noticed that it's all the rage now to be bisexual? The world has you and your generation to thank for that; you are opening doors on new ways of being, particularly in the sexual arena. Experiences and orientations that have been taboo since forever are coming up for review. You and your peers open these areas confidently, seeking to find out what's going on behind the closed doors. You let the full light fall on subjects that were previously off-limits. In fact, you accept no limits on your sexuality; it's obvious to you that everyone should be free to love whom they want, when they want and how they want. This new way of viewing sexuality is only part of what your generation is called upon to open up; the human psyche is no less a target for your revolutionary ways. Your job is to shine the light on all areas that have been taboo up until now. The effects of the changes started by you and your peers will be long-lasting, indeed.
You and your generation idealize freedom and adventure more than the stability of a single long-term relationship. You are much more likely to enjoy a series of relationships, often with people who are radically different from you -- perhaps people from another country or a completely different culture. You appreciate the exposure to habits and beliefs that diverge from your own, because in this way you learn deeply about people from different places on earth. In your eyes, there is no better way to expand your consciousness than to do it through another person's eyes. Relationships are roads to learning for you; and there are many roads to learning, are there not?
You and your peers will revolutionize the arena of relationships and romances. As a child, you watched partnerships crumble all around you, if not your own parents', then the relationships of your friends' parents; and you decided early on that you wouldn't repeat the same pattern. You take relationships very, very seriously, and for this reason may wait to start dating or getting serious about anyone. You're not in any hurry, which provides you with enough time to understand yourself and your relationship needs. Don't delay too long, though! Fear of relationship can be just as harmful as hooking up too early. Your challenge will be in finding the right balance of independence and partnership, and in knowing how much of your personal energy to expend toward each.
Despite your eternal optimism, you've got a troubled relationship history. Your previous matchups have had a way of turning into mismatches -- with your expansive, confident partners running roughshod over playful little you. It's possible that your lovers were significantly older than you, or in some way more worldly -- better educated? more advanced career-wise? Certainly you felt at a disadvantage next to them, more like a student listening to a teacher's discourse or a kid being lectured by a parent than a true partner. That, coupled with your tendency to blurt out anything that crosses your mind, has left you feeling like a child on a leash.Don't give up on relationships, though, because there's a lot your ideal partner can teach you if you're able to walk the fine line between willing acolyte and bullied wretch. Demand respect from others. Determine within yourself that a polite tone of voice is a must, and snide remarks won't be tolerated. Once you begin standing up for yourself, the balance of power in your relationships will shift, and you can start enjoying the pleasant buzz of a stimulating love relationship.
Yikes! Your previous love relationships have been a rather tense place to be. There was more than enough suspicion to go around, and what was crystal clear was the tension it caused. Pockets were gone through, emails intercepted. Phone bills were pored over. It was all so tedious and tacky, two lovers treating each other like enemy agents instead of best buddies. Yet the friction kept erupting, no matter how you struggled to subdue it. Both of you analyzed just about everything the other said and did, seeking hidden meanings. Was that argument really over the laundry, or was it about something deeper? And the breakups? Well, they weren't pretty.Chill out, Sherlock. The problem at the root of all this instability is your insecurity, coupled with your secretiveness. Take these words to heart: No one who's happy will stray. In order to hold on to the one you love, you have to be the kind of person you'd like to come home to. Don't demand and bluster and question; be the easy, lively you that you are when you're running on all your cylinders. You'll see very shortly that your ideal lover is wooed by your wiles alone.
You grabbed some real live wires when you hooked up with your past lovers, and you're still reeling from the effects -- electrified, yet stunned. Let's be honest: Your fidelity issues were on full display, yet you wouldn't commit. You worried that you couldn't trust your freewheeling sweetie. You wondered what they were up to when you weren't there to watch. You may even have caught yourself doing a little more snooping than you actually felt comfortable with. The problem, of course, was in the time you spent together, not the time you were apart. If things had been really great between you, there'd have been no need to worry, right? So...what was the problem? Did your jealousy and insecurity tear you apart? Did you demand to hear 'I love you' when your mate wasn't in the mood to say it? Did you take off and try something on the side, fulfilling your own suspicions about your mate?Buckle yourself in and get ready to enjoy the ride. You're likely to choose lovers who will always like to shake things up. You may never get the calm security or steady commitment that you think you want. But another name for security is boredom, and you won't have any of that, either. Your ideal lover won't settle for anything less than passion and zing, and if you choose to stick around, that's just what you'll get.
You're something, all right -- vital and driven, passionate and forceful. You impress others from the beginning with your confidence, and as time goes by you remain no less conspicuous. The bad news? All that energy is too often directed at tearing others down rather than building them up. You pick fights over things both large and small, determined to win at any cost. Your temper flares easily -- you may even have heard from friends or loved ones that being around you makes them nervous, because they never know when sparks will ignite. The answer is in accepting the polarities within yourself. You have many admirable attributes, including bountiful energy and a certain daring. But being of strong mind, you'll never be one to go along with the crowd. Though it's second nature to voice your opinions, try focusing on areas of agreement instead of points of contention. Figure out ways to offer compromises rather than issuing demands. And don't think of a compromise as losing the battle -- think of it as winning friends and influencing people. You'll soon discover that you can sing in harmony with another.
Pity your past lovers, because you've been awfully hard to live with. You were constantly annoyed with them, viewing their dreamy, drifting nature as lazy and unmotivated. You demanded changes, but what you asked for was both unreasonable and unkind. You chose lovers who couldn't match you intellectually or physically. They weren't the mover and shaker type like you. Instead, you chose yourself sweet, well-meaning, lovable folks who just happened to be a little spacey and emotional. The shame was that you chose with your eyes open, and then you demanded something different.Papering over the problems you've created would be a lot easier if you accepted reality and stopped wishing for something else. Your lovers will always be a little out-there -- and that's part of their charm, is it not? They give you permission to slow down a little. So why don't you? Just relax and allow yourself an idyll. Your ideal lover has much to teach you if you could stop blustering and demanding what you think you want. Embrace the calm. Wallow in the dreaminess. Just let go; there's a sweet release awaiting you in your perfect relationship.
Your past love relationships were not always a comfy place to be. Both you and your sweeties seemed more interested in manipulating each other than in being in love. You raged and pouted. They slammed doors and withheld affection and reassurance. You finally felt so frustrated that you chucked everything into the garbage. Too bad you were so quick to discard everything you'd built so far. Your lovers were challenging mates, to be sure. But that's exactly what kept you on your toes and coming back for more. Splitting when the going got rough only ensured that you'd repeat the same patterns in your next relationship.What you need is a dispassionate tallying up of the status of your past hookups. What worked in your relationships? What didn't? And the next time you get together with someone who's worth your while, put your newfound skills to the test. The ability to calmly take your connection's temperature is the first step toward solving your problems. Find some issues that need a little work, and then get going! Talk about what you both want. Make agreements on how you're going to move from here to there. It's not fun, all this negotiating, but it's the only way to break you out of your rut.
You're the kind of person who drives through life looking in the rearview mirror. Yeah, your past hasn't been ideal. People haven't always treated you as kindly as they could have, and your parents were anything but supportive. But why do you marinate in your misery? That victim label doesn't flatter you, you know. You're such a vital, vibrant soul; don't let your sunshine be dimmed by your rage -- and yes, rage is what it is, masquerading as hurt. Now, speaking of dim, it is true you've chosen some rather murky lovers in the past. Serious where you're lighthearted, weighty and solid where you can be impetuous and moving in too many directions, your ex-lovers may have tried to pull out your best qualities simply by acting as a reality check. Yet your disparities troubled you. You never felt as connected or as comfortable as you would have liked. You've never seemed to relax with another into something sweet and easy. But if you can find a way to unload some of your emotional baggage, to become more comfortable in your own skin, you'll find more ease in your future pairings. This is truly a case where the outside is a reflection of the inside.
You are such warm and loving person -- so why is there always a distance between you and your lovers? As hard as you've tried, you haven't been able to get close and comfy with any of them. You admire a wide-open mind and earthy sense of humor, while in return you are admired for your easy way with people and your vast capacity to love. Yet somehow things don't hang together. You still get nervous when you go out on dates. Conversation doesn't flow. You tend to show your social smile rather than melding together easily with your date. Time and attention will melt the frost between you and your ideal partner, should both of you care enough to weather your difficulties. You'll share many things in common, including a passion for the arts and a desire to improve yourselves. If you can learn to travel together down life's path, you will bring out the best in each other and go further than either of you can alone. And it can be done -- two people with such generous spirits should certainly be able to find it in themselves to bend enough to accommodate the needs and desires of each other.
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