The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: remember how perfect things seemed back in the beginning?
Or maybe you can't even recall those glorious early days, when the future looked rosy and the possibilities for your relationship seemed limitless.
What was it that broke the two of you up, anyway?
The answer to that question is complex and multilayered, to be sure.
Had you known what your relationship trouble spots were, then you could have been better prepared to take one of three routes; avoid them as best as you could, worked through them as a team, or decided it just wasn’t worth the trouble and move on.
Your Friction, Differences and Karma meters give you a quick, at-a-glance view of the strife in your previous relationship -- all the sources of irritation, stress and hostility that ultimately led to that final goodbye.
This information can help you come to terms with your breakup, but also make you aware of pitfalls you may encounter in the future.
7-10: Ouch -- you might still be bitter
4-6: You both knew which buttons to push
0-3: The Problem? A lack of passion.
7-10: You never got each other from day one.
4-6: Your differences were eye-opening... until they got annoying!
0-3: You could still be friends
7-10: It was doomed from the start.
4-6: Unconsciously, you both acted out old issues.
0-3: At least you made new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.
Venus square Sun
Mmmm, yummy. Your relationship was the kind of warm place puppies like to curl up in. Both you and your sweetie were kindhearted and loving, sensual and sexy. Other people envied what you had. But at the same time, there were cracks on the inside of your cocoon that didn't show from the outside. You were a bit of a stomper and a door-slammer -- and you were never known for your fidelity. Think about it: if you actually had to set up rules for what's cheating and what's not, you were skirting close to a dangerous line. Your lover, on the other hand, could be self-righteous, vain, and impulsive. In a lot of ways, you rubbed each other the wrong way, picking stupid fights with each other, viewing each other's flaws with contempt. To make this work, the answer was in good old-fashioned hard work; things like rolling up your sleeves and scheduling some time to work on your issues. Actual changes in your habits and behaviors were needed, not just a lot of hot air and empty promises. The reward for the work would have been a deepened connection that could have grown with time. The penalty for doing nothing was a crash and burn. You won't do that again, will you?
Mars square Mercury
Nervous intensity was at the center of your relationship, and it was an awfully shaky ground to build upon: emotional quicksand instead of solid, dependable rock. You often found yourself furious with your lover, who blurted out the worst things at the most inopportune moments (and like as not in front of the worst people -- it was best to keep this lover away from your boss!). Too often were you wounded with the unvarnished truth; unfortunately, you were apt to discount what your lover said instead of taking helpful hints on board. The smallest issues seemed to erupt into big arguments; the two of you misunderstood each other's intentions and actions. But it didn't have to be all bad news. The reason your relationship lasted as long as it did was because you could bring out good qualities in each other. The competitiveness simmering under the surface kept things interesting, sparkling. There was an energy between you that couldn't be denied. You should have tried approaching each situation with calm, talking slowly and listening more. Had a little cool breeze blown into your relationship, it might have been easier to relax rather than react impulsively. You won't make the same mistake next time.
Saturn square Venus
There was a crucial imbalance in your relationship, and it tore your partnership to shreds. Sorry to break the news to you, but most of the problems could be laid at your door. You held out on your lover, emotionally and physically. It wasn't that you were repelled by your mate -- you chose yourself this sensual social butterfly, after all. That physical attraction and emotional bond was what got you into this relationship. But something went awry. You grew colder. You saw your sweetie as begging for crumbs of affection, which you selfishly withheld. What made you so haughty and dismissive?If you were truly dissatisfied with your pairing, it's good that you tallied up your bills and moved on. But had there still been a spark, you should have investigated why you turned so chilly. Was it fear -- of being vulnerable, of letting someone know you completely -- that held you back? Was it connected to past experiences in which you got the short end of the stick? A little navel-gazing was in order; once you healed your own old wounds you'd have had more to give to your yearning significant other. It's never too later for self examination, and doing it now will improve your relationships later.
Mercury square Mercury
This relationship wasn't easy from the beginning, and frankly, it's a wonder you made it as far as you did. You and your lover lacked common ground. You had different beliefs and attitudes -- you two might have adhered to different political affiliations, or didn't share common views on morals and ethics. In any case, your differences of opinion drove you apart. You started out in a friendly debate, but as both of you yakked and yakked away you ceased to listen to each other. You felt you were constantly being interrupted, as if you couldn't get your words out. You didn't see eye-to-eye, and it seemed like you never would. Perhaps you were a little quick to turn your back on this sweetie. While it's true that things were sometimes strained between you, there was much potential for your future. Though it was hard for you to understand each other, you could have kept working on it. In your heart of hearts, you shared more than you realized. Had you kept on talking and tried to listen, heard the intent behind the words as well as what was being said, you could really have brought out the best in each other. Supportive communication will be an important feature of your next relationship, too.
Jupiter square Neptune
When you first met your lover you were attracted to the sweet adaptability you found. Here was a lover who would let you steer the ship, deciding where you went and with whom. Someone who would listen to your stories, sympathize with your troubles, support your dreams. You loved all that, but somehow it wasn't enough. Your partner was loving and sympathetic enough, but awfully insubstantial. You felt like you couldn't trust them to always be there for you -- your lover meant well but found it difficult to conform to plans, keep agreements, maintain boundaries. You felt like you needed something more solid and stable.It is true you faced many challenges in this relationship, but had your love been strong enough you could have conquered your difficulties. You didn't tackle your issues squarely or learn the art of compromise. If your lover bent to meet you halfway, you would have needed to bend likewise. You had to decide how you would keep your patterns from repeating. It would have taken discipline on both your parts, but with some time and practice these new patterns would have come more naturally. With this experience under your belt you'll have a better ideal of how to do it next time.
No oppositions
Did you two have trouble walking a mile in each other's moccasins? Was it difficult for either of you to view things from your partner's perspective? In arguments as well as in day-to-day life, were you both so attached to your own points of view that you just couldn't comprehend where your sweetie was coming from? If you answered 'yes' to any of the above questions, it may be because the two of you lacked any oppositions between you. An opposition is a somewhat stressful planetary connection, but it does something very important: It provides a wider perspective than just your own. Oppositions bring awareness of The Other and the ability to see things from your partner's point of view. Not being 'in opposition' to your lover might sound like a good thing, but look at it this way: It's like you're each going in your own direction, but your paths don't align. They don't cross, and they don't run parallel. You're each simply moving along on your own track, one that's noticeably unrelated to your partner's. You each thought you knew the other, but if you had taken a test on each other's likes and dislikes, you probably wouldn't have done as well as you thought. There was a basic inability for either of you to look across the table at the other and see the person who was actually sitting there; you both had a strong tendency to view the other through your own looking glass, which distorted the picture. Finding the balance between you required a lot of awareness and honesty on both your parts -- difficult, but not impossible if you had wanted this to work out.
Venus quincunx Saturn
The problem within your relationship might not have been a problem for everyone. Unfortunately, given your makeup, it was for you. You lacked heat together. Lusty, sensual being that you are, you've felt the zing of a hot physical connection before, and this wasn't it. When you kissed you didn't feel butterflies, in fact, you had to work to feel anything at all. Worse, your lover tended to be somewhat cold, withholding the easy affection and cuddles that might have made up for a lack of ardor elsewhere. The answer lay, surprisingly, in your past. Why were you so intent on showing your love physically? What did it mean to you to have a lover who yearns for an erotic connection with you? What insecurities of yours were tweaked by a lover who could resist your wiles -- and just who in your past did this attraction/repulsion, push/pull scenario remind you of? If you had decided this relationship was otherwise worth it, and were able to rid yourself of your emotional baggage (as well as your knee-jerk desire to wrap your lover around your little finger), this relationship could have been blessed with lasting stability. The power was within you.
Sun quincunx Saturn
You're the kind of person who drives through life looking in the rearview mirror. Yeah, your past wasn't ideal. People haven't always treated you as kindly as they could have, and your parents were anything but supportive. But why do you marinate in your misery? That victim label doesn't flatter you, you know. You're such a vital, vibrant soul; don't let your sunshine be dimmed by your rage -- and yes, rage is what it is, masquerading as hurt. Now, speaking of dim, it is true you chose a rather stodgy lover; serious where you were lighthearted, weighty and solid where you were impetuous and moving in too many directions. Your lover pulled out your best qualities simply by acting as a reality check. Yet your disparities troubled you. You didn't feel as connected, or as comfortable as you could have. The two of you couldn't seem to relax together into something sweet and easy. But if you could have found a way to unload some of your emotional baggage, to become more comfortable in your own skin, you would have found more ease in your pairing. Work on these sticky issues before you throw your hat into the arena of love next time.
Jupiter quincunx Pluto
Things weren't what they seemed, particularly not in your tricky, difficult love relationship. On the surface it seemed as if your sweetie had the upper hand. Your lover was stingy with affection and attention, leaving you begging for whatever meager amount you could get. Meanwhile, you sat and stewed over what you imagined your mate was up to when you were not around to watchdog. But if you could have looked into your lover's soul, you'd have seen a far different picture. In reality, it was you who was in control, you who held the reins, you who had your lover bewitched. It's just that your lover was better than you at playing it cool.The key to moving past the rough spot? You needed to stop demanding what you felt was your due, and start treating your sweetie as you would have liked to be treated yourself -- with kindness and generosity of spirit. You had to stop expecting attention and affection; and start giving it instead. Given a boost of confidence, your mate would have stopped feeling as if control was slipping away, and would have ceased trying to get you in an emotional headlock. Your vicious circle would have been transformed into a tender and sweet clinch. And wasn't that what you wanted?
Saturn quincunx Mercury
That old story about the tortoise and the hare was borne out in your pairing. You were the stolid tortoise, steadfastly working away on your ambitions, while your partner was the nervous hare, always hopping from one thing to another. Not only was that lack of focus annoying, it was distracting. You were not able to get as much done with your mate around, and it bothered you that your sweetie seemed to hold you back from reaching your potential, rather than bringing out the best in you. It always seemed like you had to be the parent, the one to to take care of business while your partner flitted around socializing and having fun. You liked the control, but the responsibility was a drag. You kept doing it, however, because if you didn't, it didn't get done.You needed to let loose of the reins of responsibility. Your partner was never going to step up to the plate unless you had started backing off a little. You could have started with small things -- where were you going to go to dinner? What's the vacation spot for this year? Then moved up to more major decisions. It may have been a slow process, but instead it couldn't move forward at all because you two didn't start the ball rolling. Joint decision-making is a learned skill, and you're a good learner.
No conjunctions
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Your relationship was bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there was not a strong connection between you. But you were able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who chose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Didn't you always wonder about them? What did they think would happen if they weren't together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation was not a problem for you two; in fact, you may have done it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this was surely true of you and your partner. You took great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have had to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each have been involved in your own orbits that you suddenly realized that days or even weeks had gone by without you two sharing a full day together.You shouldn't have let that happen. You needed to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often can turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two had chosen to be together, and likewise, you could have chosen to grow together.
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