The Break-Up Guide

Sun square Venus

It Would've Been Worth The Work

Few could resist your magnetic, magnificent lover, and certainly you were not immune to their many, many charms. So why did you find yourself chafing under the bonds of your link? You were annoyed and irritated by things large and small; you picked fights when your sweetie would rather have been snuggling on the sofa or making a hand-in-hand grand entrance at some glam party. Why was it you couldn't seem to relax and enjoy a relationship that looked so good on paper? Your relationship showed exceeding promise, if you could only have made it past rough spots you experienced. You and your mate shared a certain generosity of spirit, enlivened by a love of good living and a desire to connect deeply with others. Yes, your pairing was challenging -- because you demanded the best from yourself and from others, and neither one of you let the other one slack off. You needed to learn to live up to each other's expectations. If you could have risen to the challenge, you might have crafted the kind of remarkable relationship that would make others envy what you had.

Venus square Sun

WarmToo Warm?

Mmmm, yummy. Your relationship was the kind of warm place puppies like to curl up in. Both you and your sweetie were kindhearted and loving, sensual and sexy. Other people envied what you had. But at the same time, there were cracks on the inside of your cocoon that didn't show from the outside. You were a bit of a stomper and a door-slammer -- and you were never known for your fidelity. Think about it: if you actually had to set up rules for what's cheating and what's not, you were skirting close to a dangerous line. Your lover, on the other hand, could be self-righteous, vain, and impulsive. In a lot of ways, you rubbed each other the wrong way, picking stupid fights with each other, viewing each other's flaws with contempt. To make this work, the answer was in good old-fashioned hard work; things like rolling up your sleeves and scheduling some time to work on your issues. Actual changes in your habits and behaviors were needed, not just a lot of hot air and empty promises. The reward for the work would have been a deepened connection that could have grown with time. The penalty for doing nothing was a crash and burn. You won't do that again, will you?

Mercury square Venus

Where Was the Truce?

You certainly chose a partner who was a match for you, and that would have been a good thing, ultimately -- it just drove you nuts is all. It felt like you and your lover had difficulty understanding each other, particularly around emotional issues. And it was funny how a lot of things -- dishes, who was buying dinner, where you were going on vacation -- turned into an emotional issue with the pair of you. You yourself plowed through life with acumen and logic, determined to make sense of the world in front of you. Your partner, on the other hand, was more of a feeler than a thinker, and tended to overindulge your moods and notions. The result? You sometimes viewed your partner with something more akin to contempt than adoration, and neither one of you felt an easy connection with each other. The cure would have been better communication, and since you were the Great Communicator, you were well-placed for the task. If you wanted to stay in this relationship, it was up to you to bridge the gap. You could have stopped finding fault with your partner; instead, finding things to love and admire. Had you given more, you would have received much more.

Sun square Pluto

A Power Couple

Color you green, because you were possessive and ill-tempered in this relationship. You landed yourself a big fish that time: powerful, magnetic, impressive. Every head turned when you walked in the room with this special someone on your arm, and you liked it. You basked in the reflected glow of your sweetheart, no less so because you gave off a vibrant, confident sparkle of your own. Truly you were a power couple, a pair others envy. But behind the scenes all was not so sweet. Both you and your sweetie tended to be imperious, fractious, spiteful. Worse, your usual confidence was shaken by your lover's secretive ways. You couldn't seem to get your mojo working, you felt out-of-sorts and angry. You may even have viewed your partner's behavior as abusive. If you had really wanted this to work out, the secret to managing this difficult love relationship would have been to exhibit a little more patience, and a lot more equanimity. Your partner wouldn't have pulled away if you hadn't demanded so much reassurance. If you'd been the person you'd like to come home to, your mate might have been home more often.

Venus square Uranus

Wild Ride

Yours was the kind of romance that makes for great stories later -- in other words, it wasn't always easy. You and your lover were drawn to each other right from the start. It all happened so fast. One minute you were on your first date, the next you were on the phone to your best friend saying 'This is the ONE!' You fell into love so quickly that you didn't look where you were headed, and therein lay the problem. It's just that you chose yourself such a darned tricky, unstable sweetie; full of electric excitement, of drama and blistering, little-hairs-standing-up-on-the-back-of-your-neck passion. But as you no doubt found out, they also signified upheaval, disruption, a heaping helping of the wrong kind of excitement.Well, if nothing else, you had yourself one heck of a ride. If you were willing to hang on, accepting all the bumps and jolts that were sure to come your way, more thrills would have been yours. One thing you could say for your relationship -- it was absolutely never boring. You may decide that next time you want a little smoother ride.

Mercury square Pluto

Were You Jealous?

Yikes! Your love relationship was a rather tense place to be. Your partner may or may not have been playing a little footsie with someone else. Whether it went all the way was unclear, but what was crystal clear was the tension it caused. Pockets were gone through. Emails were intercepted. Phone bills were pored over. It was all so tedious and tacky, wasn't it, two lovers treating each other like enemy agents instead of best buddies? Yet the friction kept erupting. Both of you analyzed just about everything the other said and did, seeking hidden meanings. Was that argument really over who was doing the laundry, or was it about something deeper?The key was to chill out, Sherlock. The problem at the root of all this instability was your insecurity, coupled with your partner's secretiveness. Take these words to heart: no one who's happy strays. If you wanted to hold on to the one you loved, you had to be the kind of person you'd have liked to come home to. Not demanding and blustering and questioning; but the easy, lively you that you were when you were running on all your cylinders. You would have seen very shortly that your lover was wooed by your wiles alone. You've got what it takes.

Saturn square Pluto

Two-Way Respect

When your relationship was on, it was so on. You were passionate and intense, attracted to each other beyond all reason, which was probably why you acted like one possessed. But on the other hand, when your pairing went sour, it was very, very nasty. Arguments erupted over things large and small: paying the bills, where to go to dinner, where your relationship was headed. You whined and sulked; your partner regarded you with unsympathetic distaste. You were never one to carry on emotionally, but something about this partnership brought out your weak, cringing, easily-wounded side. It felt as if your mate had all the power, and all you could do was cause irritation like a small stinging insect.If this partnership was going to last, you simply would have had to learn to give yourself the same respect you gave your partner. You had to stop seeing yourself as unimportant and useless. You needed to demand equal time, and equal rights. You may have thought you were throwing everything away by standing up to your lover, but paradoxically you would have won the love and respect you craved, the love and respect you never could and never did win by begging. Let this life lesson emerge from the ashes of your relationship.

Jupiter opposite Venus

Love the One You're With

When your relationship was on track, the pair of you were an unbeatable team: frolicsome, lovey-dovey, almost sickeningly adorable. When you were on the outs, however, you were even more unbearable. You lectured endlessly; your partner pouted and complained. And all too often you gave in to your tendency to pontificate, embarrassing your lover. Remember, love affairs are supposed to be a meeting of equals, not a painful process in which you try to mold someone you find snobbishly substandard into someone you think 'worthy' of your affection.Some blunt advice? You should have appreciated what you had: a glimmering social butterfly that others envied you for, a bright light in a sea of dim dullness. You should have tried to see your lover through others' eyes, and found the person who once attracted you so much, before everyday stressors wore down your patience and affection. There was much here to value, if you could have toned down your bossy streak. Your lover's intellect couldn't match yours, and your interests would never have meshed completely. But if you could have focused instead on what you shared and enjoyed about each other, you could have kept things on a more even keel. You'll know better next time, because you let a good one get away.

Mars opposite Saturn

Out of Sync

Boy, were you two out-of-sync. You were that annoying couple at the party who couldn't stop bickering over every little thing. You accused your partner of being too pessimistic, too serious, too stuck in the mud. Your lover, on the other hand, found you bossy and overbearing. You disagreed over money. You didn't approve of each other's career choices. And worst of all, your pairing brought out the greedy, grasping side of both of you, making it possible that one or both of you remained in the relationship merely to gain or hold on to money or status instead of true love. But there's always an other hand, and yours was one with promise. You had the wisdom to choose a partner who was, as you accuse, serious -- but in the best possible way. Your lover was solid and and down-to-earth, and very very worthwhile, had you only found a way to cool off the antagonism that drove you two apart. Suggestion for next time? Stop finding fault in others. Focus on the qualities and dreams you share, rather than your differences. This will give you a relationship that will be a challenge, but the rewards will be more than worth the work.

Jupiter opposite Pluto

The Baby and the Bath Water

Your love relationship was not always a comfy place to be. Both you and your sweetie seemed more interested in manipulating each other than in being in love. You raged and pouted. Your partner slammed doors and withheld affection and reassurance. You drove each other absolutely crazy. You felt so frustrated that you chucked everything in the garbage -- but you shouldn't have been so quick to discard what you had built so far. Your lover was a challenging mate, to be sure. But that was exactly what kept you on your toes, and kept you coming back for more. Splitting when the going got rough only ensured that you will repeat the same patterns in your next relationship.What was needed was a dispassionate tallying up of the status of your relationship. What was working in your relationship? What was not? The ability to calmly take your connection's temperature was the first step to solving your problems. Did you find some issues that needed a little work? Great! You should have gotten going! Talked about what you both wanted. Made agreements on how you were going to move from here to there. This type of negotiating it was the only way to break out of your relationship rut.

Mars quincunx Sun

A Tightly Wound Spring

Your lover was one spicy meatball. Others envied your relationship, and they should have, because what you had was something pretty hot. You were equally attuned towards the pleasures of the flesh: sensual, lusty, sexy idylls could occur in the morning, noon, or night. Just being next to your lover was a delicious dream, and as you snuggled and drowsed you were in heaven. Out of the bedroom, though, things weren't as rosy. You may have shared many goals and interests, but you just weren't as comfortable as you should have been at that point of your relationship. You couldn't relax and let go. Your partner was reluctant to commit. Relaxation was the key to keeping this commitment. Though your personal tendency was to move, to do, to go, your love relationship was a fruit on the vine that just needed a bit of ripening. Did you always have to be in such a hurry? You should have kept a lid on your rampaging ambition for once, and just enjoyed what you had. You needed to be in the moment. Not plan ahead; instead, just think about the moment you were in. The friction between you would have evaporated if you could have started a chain reaction: The answer was to love, to bask, to laugh, and to delight in what you had instead of chafing. It's a good thing to keep in mind for your next love affair.

Mars quincunx Jupiter

Tiring

Who ever said self-improvement was fun? You and your sweetie were treading an awfully virtuous path. Both of you were interested in making more of yourselves -- advancing your education, moving forward in your career. It was a strategy that would have paid off eventually, but sometimes your relationship suffered from a lack of air. You bored each other. Conversation seemed stale, and the physical side of your relationship seemed even more stifling and dull. At times it seemed as if you had nothing to say to each other. It was like you'd already eaten dessert and all that was left in the meal was dry, dull meat.The answer was to shake things up a little -- this shouldn't have been too hard for you, given that you were the source of action and movement in this hookup. You could have taken up a hobby together. Something sporty, or nature-oriented was favored; something that would have made you both sweat together. Once you added a little life to your pairing, you'd have found that your relationship ran quite smoothly, since your partner tended to channel your boundless energies into healthy pursuits, while you spurred your partner to realize their impossible dreams. The stars were aligned in your favor; but it was you who needed to get the ball rolling. Next time, you won't hesitate.

Sun quincunx Mercury

This Was An Awkward Mix

A day late and a dollar short. Does that about cover it? There were so many good things about your relationship, but for whatever reason you couldn't quite seem to make it all hang together. You found your lover intriguing, oh yes, indeed, but you couldn't seem to get comfortable. There were awkward pauses in your conversation. You didn't get each other's jokes. You couldn't make that comfortable connection that makes staying together seem more natural and easy than splitting up.It may have seemed as if inevitable doom was in your forecast, but that wasn't necessarily so. Individuals can triumph over the obstacles that make the path of their true love rocky, and you and your sweetie could have been star-crossed lovers who persevered. What would have spelled success? A connection so strong that it made working a little harder well worth it. Did you feel you couldn't live without the love you shared? If so, you could have learned to be flexible. If you had taken an interest in your sweetie's passions and played down the things you didn't share, you would have found that things ran more smoothly -- eventually.

Sun quincunx Neptune

Missed the Boat

Why, oh, why did you and your lover keep finding yourselves in a bad place? You seemed stuck on a terrible treadmill. The pair of you pulled apart, came together, drifted away, circled back. You tired of repeating the same patterns. The chief problem you had with your sweetie was that you couldn't seem to find common ground. And it's true, you didn't have a lot in common -- you were driven while your lover was dreamy, you wanted to stride through the world making big changes, while your lover was more apt to dawdle and drift.But why should you have expected any different when you were the architect of this awkwardness? You were attracted to your lover because of your differences, not in spite of them. Your lover wanted you to slow down a little, to appreciate the subtle and magical rather than just the here and now. In your arrogance you wanted to force your sweetie to see things from your perspective, but that was shortsighted. You needed to bend a little and listen to someone else for a change. You may have found you had a lot to learn about life, not to mention your lover.

Mercury quincunx Neptune

Different but Equal

Had your ex-love been a dining table, it would have been one of those long mahogany jobbies you see in the movies about awkward rich people. You were at one end, your lover was at the other, and between you stretched a vast, unnavigable distance. You didn't meld. Conversations lagged. You didn't understand each other, and sometimes it was difficult to see why you were bothering with each other at all. You stayed because there was a great, overwhelming attraction you felt for your partner. What a charmer! Dreamy and optimistic, compassionate and mysterious; to spend time with your lover was to be enthralled, not turned off by the chasm between you. So, if you wanted to be with this lover, why did you agitate so much over the differences between you? Yes, yes, you lacked commonality in many areas, but who said that one person had to be everything to their lover? If you'd wanted to make this work, you could have sought out simpatico pals for the activities your lover would rather skip. You shouldn't have demanded your gentle sweetie keep up with you socially; instead, you needed to spend plenty of time alone, just experiencing your love as it came instead of dissecting it with your fierce intellect.

Saturn quincunx Jupiter

Burdens and Obligations

You were always the kind of lover your mates bragged about to their moms -- reliable, sensible, stable, loyal. But something about this lover turned your usual style upside down. You felt burdened by what you viewed as your obligation to them. You also carried guilt from bad choices you made in the past, and that guilt carried over into this relationship, causing you to take on more responsibility and commitment than you really felt ready for.But why blame your mate for your own bad choices? Obligations weren't placed upon you. You took them on yourself. If you didn't want to be burdened, you should just have said so. You could have sought the advice of friends, who might have helped you clarify what you wanted and what you should have rejected. Then you could have picked and chosen; said no to some things, yes to others. You should have give in to your lover on some matters, but insisted on your own way elsewhere. It wasn't comfortable for you, speaking your mind. It may have brought on a difficult transitional period, but at the end of it your lover would have known --and adored -- the real you. Before that can happen, though, you have to love yourself. There's plenty to love, so get started!

Saturn quincunx Neptune

Past Was Made Present

Past indiscretions have a way of coming back, and yours rebounded on you. Your mate discovered something you wanted to keep hidden, and you felt exposed and insecure. What you feared was true -- your lover did think less of you than before. But what you didn't know was that the shift was due more to your secrecy than to what you hid. How could your mate trust you when you kept things hidden? You needed to open up. Reveal all the aspects of the situation. What were you feeling at the time? How had it affected your life? How had you changed since then?Opening up like this would have been quite uncomfortable for you. So you reverted to your usual pattern, pretending like nothing was going on while you buried your head in work. You feared rejection if your lover knew your true self. But you had to let some air into your dark closet. It was hard to breathe back there! You should have let your lover know what was up; explained the repercussions of your past choices, and allowed them to make choices about what to do next. It would have been scary being an open book, but you would only have moved forward by letting go. That is no less true today.

No conjunctions

Not Enough Glue

There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Your relationship was bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there was not a strong connection between you. But you were able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who chose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Didn't you always wonder about them? What did they think would happen if they weren't together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation was not a problem for you two; in fact, you may have done it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this was surely true of you and your partner. You took great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have had to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each have been involved in your own orbits that you suddenly realized that days or even weeks had gone by without you two sharing a full day together.You shouldn't have let that happen. You needed to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often can turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two had chosen to be together, and likewise, you could have chosen to grow together.

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