The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: remember how perfect things seemed back in the beginning?
Or maybe you can't even recall those glorious early days, when the future looked rosy and the possibilities for your relationship seemed limitless.
What was it that broke the two of you up, anyway?
The answer to that question is complex and multilayered, to be sure.
Had you known what your relationship trouble spots were, then you could have been better prepared to take one of three routes; avoid them as best as you could, worked through them as a team, or decided it just wasn’t worth the trouble and move on.
Your Friction, Differences and Karma meters give you a quick, at-a-glance view of the strife in your previous relationship -- all the sources of irritation, stress and hostility that ultimately led to that final goodbye.
This information can help you come to terms with your breakup, but also make you aware of pitfalls you may encounter in the future.
7-10: Ouch -- you might still be bitter
4-6: You both knew which buttons to push
0-3: The Problem? A lack of passion.
7-10: You never got each other from day one.
4-6: Your differences were eye-opening... until they got annoying!
0-3: You could still be friends
7-10: It was doomed from the start.
4-6: Unconsciously, you both acted out old issues.
0-3: At least you made new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.
You can be a real pain in the butt, and we couldn't blame your sweetie for booting you right out the door. You pushed your luck too far. The fact of the matter was that you chose a lover who didn't harmonize with you naturally. They tended towards the indulgent: fine food, good wine (and plenty of it!), and abundant socializing while your more discerning, intellectual nature cried out for weightier stimulation. You craved a lover who could talk and argue and analyze as well as experience and enjoy. So, feeling stifled in your relationship, you took it out on the one person who loved you more than any other, which just wasn't fair.Had you squashed your desire to lecture and hector, you could have made it past the rough period. Though you refused to see it, you two actually brought out the best in each other -- you were drawn out of your ivory tower, while your lover's self-indulgent tendencies were curbed in your presence, whether you realized it or not. You should have tried to give your lover a break; stopped trying to control, to change them. Ultimately, the love you wanted was already in your hands. Next time, remember to appreciate what you've got when you've got it.
There was a crucial imbalance in your relationship, and it tore your partnership to shreds. Sorry to break the news to you, but most of the problems could be laid at your door. You held out on your lover, emotionally and physically. It wasn't that you were repelled by your mate -- you chose yourself this sensual social butterfly, after all. That physical attraction and emotional bond was what got you into this relationship. But something went awry. You grew colder. You saw your sweetie as begging for crumbs of affection, which you selfishly withheld. What made you so haughty and dismissive?If you were truly dissatisfied with your pairing, it's good that you tallied up your bills and moved on. But had there still been a spark, you should have investigated why you turned so chilly. Was it fear -- of being vulnerable, of letting someone know you completely -- that held you back? Was it connected to past experiences in which you got the short end of the stick? A little navel-gazing was in order; once you healed your own old wounds you'd have had more to give to your yearning significant other. It's never too later for self examination, and doing it now will improve your relationships later.
There was something unhealthy about this relationship, and you finally woke up to it. What were the unsavory acts or emotions your lover drew from you? Your worst side was emphasized in your sweetie's presence; you became more aggressive, temperamental, egotistical and impatient, while your lover's tendency towards laziness and excess seemed to swell when you were around. You two may have had accumulated debt together (perhaps credit card debt, gained from your tendency to spend too much on fripperies), and you had difficulty keeping to a budget. Even worse, your sharply dissonant views on matters like beliefs, ethics, politics and education meant that you had difficulty finding common ground. Nonetheless, if, despite this, you still had wanted to make this work, there was an opportunity here for a fine connection. You shared a certain drive and passion, and were both equally openhearted and loving. If you could have found a way to compromise, a way to look past your differences and create new habits that served you both rather than creating problems, this could have been a very solid and sweet relationship indeed.
How often did you stare at your sweetie with a gaping jaw, wondering what on earth they were thinking? Misunderstandings haunted your pairing. Both of you meant well, but at times it seemed you were speaking different languages. And you, with your galloping ego, got all huffy puffy, fueling the friction that was always simmering between the pair of you. You raged. Your lover clammed up. A roaring silence stretched between you, both of you too stubborn to break the tension.But the power to fix this relationship was in your hands, had you wanted to. You picked yourself a mercurial, restless, enigmatic lover for a reason -- you found the challenge intriguing and sexy. You could have gone with it, learned to be comfortable with a bit of mystery. You were never going to wallow in perfect, contented understanding with your sweetie; instead you had an exciting lover who stirred you up. Argue and debate could have been a prelude to passion instead of letting your quibbles drive a wedge between you. You could have had something very, very hot, if only you were willing to forego serenity. Everything has its cost.
What a couple of strutting peacocks you and your lover were! And like peacocks, you were magnificent, impressive, admired -- and rather disagreeable at times. Both you and your lover tended towards the big and bold. More was more for the pair of you, as you spent exorbitant amounts of money, time, and energy on the good life. The pair of you did everything in a big way, creating a display that was dazzling but death on your inner lives. You spent too much time trying to impress each other and outsiders, and the result was the Yorkshire pudding of relationships -- all gorgeous and golden on the outside, nothing but hot air on the inside.What would have brought balance back to this relationship was paying more attention to life's bread-and-butter issues. Making sure responsibilities were taken care of before the fun started. Not taking each other for granted; instead, checking in with each other often to make sure everything was on track. Curbing your tendencies for extravagance and indulgence, and turning your energies towards what really mattered: family, friends, a happy home life, and each other. There was a lot of warmth and energy between you, all you needed was time to appreciate it.
When you first met your lover you were attracted to the sweet adaptability you found. Here was a lover who would let you steer the ship, deciding where you went and with whom. Someone who would listen to your stories, sympathize with your troubles, support your dreams. You loved all that, but somehow it wasn't enough. Your partner was loving and sympathetic enough, but awfully insubstantial. You felt like you couldn't trust them to always be there for you -- your lover meant well but found it difficult to conform to plans, keep agreements, maintain boundaries. You felt like you needed something more solid and stable.It is true you faced many challenges in this relationship, but had your love been strong enough you could have conquered your difficulties. You didn't tackle your issues squarely or learn the art of compromise. If your lover bent to meet you halfway, you would have needed to bend likewise. You had to decide how you would keep your patterns from repeating. It would have taken discipline on both your parts, but with some time and practice these new patterns would have come more naturally. With this experience under your belt you'll have a better ideal of how to do it next time.
Did you two have trouble walking a mile in each other's moccasins? Was it difficult for either of you to view things from your partner's perspective? In arguments as well as in day-to-day life, were you both so attached to your own points of view that you just couldn't comprehend where your sweetie was coming from? If you answered 'yes' to any of the above questions, it may be because the two of you lacked any oppositions between you. An opposition is a somewhat stressful planetary connection, but it does something very important: It provides a wider perspective than just your own. Oppositions bring awareness of The Other and the ability to see things from your partner's point of view. Not being 'in opposition' to your lover might sound like a good thing, but look at it this way: It's like you're each going in your own direction, but your paths don't align. They don't cross, and they don't run parallel. You're each simply moving along on your own track, one that's noticeably unrelated to your partner's. You each thought you knew the other, but if you had taken a test on each other's likes and dislikes, you probably wouldn't have done as well as you thought. There was a basic inability for either of you to look across the table at the other and see the person who was actually sitting there; you both had a strong tendency to view the other through your own looking glass, which distorted the picture. Finding the balance between you required a lot of awareness and honesty on both your parts -- difficult, but not impossible if you had wanted this to work out.
There was something odd about your relationship. Something didn't quite work; the pieces didn't fit together. What was it? Was one of you more committed than the other? Did one of you have desires to stray? Something went wrong, and you were going to have to look at the problem truthfully if you were ever going to solve it. It's likely that the mismatch of intentions or emotions caused some friction between you. You may have felt as if you couldn't talk to your lover truthfully; as if you kept misunderstanding each other. You couldn't see clearly; you didn't know where your lover was at. Making it through your rough patches would have required both sacrifice and compromise. You were hoping to keep on keeping on the way you had been, blasting through life and love with ambition and speed. But this relationship required more in the way of introspection and calm. You had to be willing to give in to your lover in some areas. Giving a little more would have guaranteed that you got more in return, as both you and your lover relaxed into partnership rather than rubbing each other the wrong way. It is possible; next time you'll try a little harder!
Alone, in your most private of moments, you and your lover were quite a match. Your hearts beat as one, your touch made your mate melt, etc. etc. But out of the bedroom things were not so rosy. There was much dissension between you and your mate, likely centered either on your social lives or careers. You were sensual and expansive, attractive to others and often surrounded by a crowd. Your mate, on the other hand, tended to be more reserved and conservative, needed more alone time, and was a bit punishing. Together you had a tendency to play parent-child, with the one playing the parent role switching off from time to time.Both of you had to learn to temper your tendencies towards extremism. You actually could have learned much from each other if you could have stopped fighting each other's influences and instead learned what you could from your differences. You could have stood to be more directed; your sweetie could certainly have lightened up a bit. If you wanted this to work, you needed to call a truce. Let the sweet harmony you felt physically radiate out to the other areas of your relationship as you learned to treat each other with more consideration and kindness.
Lust was the hidden spark that energized your relationship; a delightful, vital part of your pairing was the animal magnetism between the two of you. But it was not all heated kisses and breathy sighs. You and your lover were as a fractious as a pair of cats: circling each other suspiciously, then pouncing for the kill. Each of you was battling for control. Who had it? Who wanted it? It was likely that you had the overt upper hand. Your lover appeared to comply with your wishes. But secretively your sweetie rebelled, doing things that would curl your hair if only you knew.But you shouldn't have hit the road so quickly. You remain far too fascinated and frustrated with your oddball amour to make any kind of split stick. You would have done best to abandon your habitual attempts to boss your lover around. You had found one who simply wouldn't be caged or pinned down. You had to stop trying. Instead, you could have just enjoyed the interesting (and sometimes insane!) existence you found with your dear, darling, dizzying mate. Both of you needed your independence like you needed air to breathe. If you'd granted your sweetie some, you'd have had the space you craved as well.
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