The Inner War Zone, Projections and Relationship Karma Meters:
You want the nitty-gritty, right?
You're ready to know the real deal when it comes to your own true nature and psychological issues... the ones that prevent you from finding and holding on to that ideal love you dream of.
Reading your Love Life Remedy report will give you that in-depth picture, but these three meters show an at-a-glance view of the lessons you have yet to learn.
Remember, whether your scores on the meters are high or low, you're in good company: We ALL have plenty of emotional baggage that comes from past relationships, our childhoods, and even past lives.
And we ALL have a lot of room for improvement when it comes to changing our lives for the better and improving our relationships, including our love connections.
7-10 Repressed anger, defensiveness and a seriously short fuse can turn your love affairs into an all-out war.
4-6 You've got some issues and inner conflicts to work through, but who doesn't?
0-3 You're so laid back in your relationships it could actually be a problem.
7-10 Seeing all sides of every issue is actually a detriment. You don't know what to believe!
4-6 You know your own mind, but you can see their point too. That's a good thing.
0-3 You see your sweetie as they really are...but do you understand them?
7-10 It's beyond time to work through your baggage from past relationships, or even past lives. Try moving forward!
4-6 Some of your relationship issues have been around for a while. It's time to sort them out now.
0-3 Good news: It's not just a new affair with the same old story. But can you compromise?
You're nice, Libra. Probably too nice. You just hate the idea of hurting anyone's feelings, so you go out of your way not to, even when it means lying through your teeth. Well, to be fair, in the moment when you said those things, you actually believed them, so technically it wasn't lying, even if you came to your senses five minutes later. But by then it was too late, and you couldn't bear to make them cry, so you kept mum and went along even though deep inside you, something was screaming. Days, or weeks, or months or years later, the truth finally came out, and generally not in a pleasant way. And thus ended another relationship. Oh, by the way, that's not even mentioning the ones that got away because you couldn't decide yea or nay on them.You are what you are, and there's little point in telling you to just make up your mind; that's next to impossible for you. But you can get over this silly need to protect others from your truth (what do you think will happen to them, anyway, if you speak honestly?). Put your needs before theirs, for once, and you'll be surprised by the improvement in your relationships.
Like the best diplomats, you've had plenty of training in how to say difficult things so nicely that the other guy doesn't even know he's getting bad news. You turn on the charm and spin your tale so eloquently that you've got everyone around the table nodding and smiling, and at the end of the meal, they even pick up the check. It's only later, when they're scratching their heads over the things you said, that they realize they've been duped. If your previous lovers feel this way en masse, then you lose your Get Out of Jail Free card. You've got some 'splainin to do!Of course, you don't really mean those little white lies, and you really do forget the fine-print details when you're trying to win someone over to your side. And yes, it truly would be next to impossible for you to present a clear, bare-bones, direct and accurate description of your viewpoint. But for the sake of everyone who isn't inside your head or heart, would you please give it a try?
You have the hardest time saying 'no,' don't you? You're so careful not to hurt anyone's feelings, or to make them think that you don't like them (even when you really don't!). And it's not as if you're lying, because you really do believe things in the moment you say them. But like a chameleon, you may change the very next minute, the better to blend in with your environment. Can you wonder why everyone complains about how inconstant you are? How changeable? How indecisive?Previous lovers have been captivated by your artistry, your good taste, your refinement. Your pleasant nature and romantic leanings make you a wonderful date. Why didn't you tell them that you're dating three other people, too? Much better to be honest about it than to be embarrassed out on a date with one of your other amours, only to bump into the person you were supposed to be committed to. Avoid those little white lies you tell in order to protect your lover, or yourself. It's too much to keep track of!
You have so many wonderful qualities to offer: pride, leadership, strength, ardor. Why, then, do you get offended so very easily when someone says something against you? Your quick overreaction to challenges and criticisms suggests that maybe you're not quite as confident as you pretend to be. More than one previous partner has said that you're defensive, and that you can't take a joke or even recognize one. Which, of course, makes it all the more tempting to play jokes on you! Why not, when the results are so satisfying?Lighten up, and you'll have just as much fun as the next guy. Don't let them get under your skin; it's really not worth it. Criticisms are often honest statements of your lover's point of view, rather than the purposely hurtful barbs that you perceive them to be. As far as jokes go, you can deflect them with humor of your own -- but not at anyone else's expense, of course; you know how much that hurts! Next time, choose a lover who's not such a jokester, but one who will appreciate your many fine characteristics without feeling compelled to make fun of them. They will be amply rewarded with the fine love that you shower down on them.
With your eyes always on the straight and narrow path, you may have been oblivious to many opportunities that have passed you by, not least in the arena of love. Successful relationships often require that first leap of faith, the ability to step out of your normal day-to-day routine in order to make contact, establish a connection and develop the romance. In the past, this has ruffled your feathers more than you were able to tolerate. The result of your devotion to the tried-and-true has been a noticeable dearth of romance, and you're ready to move beyond that now. You've idealized your partner so many times that it's really not necessary to create any type of list of the qualities of your ideal lover. The list is already there. In fact, if anything, you should drag it out and make some realistic adjustments to it. It's important that you hook up with someone you respect, but also someone who looks up to you as well, and who will support you when you want to indulge yourself a little bit. Self-indulgence always makes you feel a little guilty, but it's something we all need from time to time!
When your past lovers inquired if you'd been tested for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, that should have been a red flag for you. OK, maybe you're not obsessive-compulsive, or even a neat freak. But there's a perfectionist streak inside you that's a mile wide, and even the tidiest or hardest-working person might feel oppressed by your efforts to perform up to your own impossible standards. Fastidiousness, after all, is not a virtue unless you're in a hospital or science lab, and no one but you expects you to ace that test every single time. The standards you hold for yourself are in the stratosphere, yet you struggle incessantly to fulfill them -- and if you can't, you throw a temper tantrum and then give up completely. The people who know you best can only sit back and shake their heads at you.You're not given to flights of fancy, that's for sure, but you could still lighten up a little. Stop worrying that people will think you're not good enough, or productive enough, or diligent enough. You trump everyone in those departments. Have a little faith in yourself! Once this happens, it will be easier to see the admiring glances that are cast your way. You've many fine qualities to offer if you could just learn to let things go a little bit. The sky won't fall, Chicken Little.
Have you noticed that it's all the rage now to be bisexual? The world has you and your generation to thank for that; you are opening doors on new ways of being, particularly in the sexual arena. Experiences and orientations that have been taboo since forever are coming up for review. You and your peers open these areas confidently, seeking to find out what's going on behind the closed doors. You let the full light fall on subjects that were previously off-limits. In fact, you accept no limits on your sexuality; it's obvious to you that everyone should be free to love whom they want, when they want and how they want. This new way of viewing sexuality is only part of what your generation is called upon to open up; the human psyche is no less a target for your revolutionary ways. Your job is to shine the light on all areas that have been taboo up until now. The effects of the changes started by you and your peers will be long-lasting, indeed.
You and your generation idealize freedom and adventure more than the stability of a single long-term relationship. You are much more likely to enjoy a series of relationships, often with people who are radically different from you -- perhaps people from another country or a completely different culture. You appreciate the exposure to habits and beliefs that diverge from your own, because in this way you learn deeply about people from different places on earth. In your eyes, there is no better way to expand your consciousness than to do it through another person's eyes. Relationships are roads to learning for you; and there are many roads to learning, are there not?
You and your peers will revolutionize the arena of relationships and romances. As a child, you watched partnerships crumble all around you, if not your own parents', then the relationships of your friends' parents; and you decided early on that you wouldn't repeat the same pattern. You take relationships very, very seriously, and for this reason may wait to start dating or getting serious about anyone. You're not in any hurry, which provides you with enough time to understand yourself and your relationship needs. Don't delay too long, though! Fear of relationship can be just as harmful as hooking up too early. Your challenge will be in finding the right balance of independence and partnership, and in knowing how much of your personal energy to expend toward each.
Romantic success seemed tantalizingly close so many times, yet always eluded you. Were you looking at things as they really were, or as you wished they were? There was something insubstantial in your pairings, something secret or unexpressed lurking right beneath the surface. Did you or your partner have issues from the past that were never admitted to or worked through? Was one of you up to something secretive and unhealthy? Whatever the issues, they caused problems between you, problems you can't understand without owning up to exactly what went wrong. You thought you knew your partner, but you were wrong.Moving forward, take the time to get to know the next person you date. Talk about your feelings. What are each of you looking for in your relationship? What is it you need that you're not getting? And, most painfully, what parts of you do you fear are unlovable? It could turn out that your fears and anxieties are not grounded in reality. And in any case, you must let the real you be known if you are to be loved and accepted. Let your true self be seen. Do not fear that when you open up you'll be rejected. You have much love to give, and your ideal lover will have tender regard for you; letting that love in to your private, bruised parts will start a glorious healing process.
You're pretty secure in your own viewpoint. You're not the wishy-washy type, and if you are, you're absolutely dedicated to each particular opinion -- even if you completely change your mind five minutes later. In short, you've got the courage of conviction, but in your past relationships, this often looked to your partners like smugness, or even emotional neglect. Even when you felt certain that you understood them and their feelings, they were still upset that you just didn't get where they were coming from. If they were the patient, communicative type, they might have kept trying for a while before giving up on you. If they were the short-fused type, they probably left in a huff the first time you gave them that blank look that meant, 'What's the problem, babe?' Sympathy and empathy are essential to a functional intimate relationship. You and your lover are two completely different people, and while you'll each experience life from your own unique perspective, you still need to be able to translate your experiences to each other, and you both need to feel respected and understood. In future relationships, you'll have to work on listening to your partner when they describe their feelings or how they view a particular situation. Even if what they describe sounds utterly foreign -- and therefore negligible -- to you, take them seriously anyway. You may even need to remind yourself on a regular basis that their feelings and perspective are every bit as valid as your own.
You've never been much for compromise, have you? In past relationships, when issues came up between you and your lover, you used whatever tools you had -- sweetly cajoling, arguing, turning a cold shoulder -- to get your own way. But why was having your own way so important? After all, other people have feelings, needs and agendas, too, just like yours. Who decides which person's need is the most important one in any given moment? That's a perennial question for all relationships, and except in the one between an infant and its caretaker, the answer isn't as simple as 'I decide, and my needs always come first.' Relationships, after all, should be about give and take. Sometimes you get your way; sometimes your lover does. Insisting on always getting your way not only makes you look uncomfortably similar to that aforementioned infant, it could actually lead to loneliness. After all, if it's a choice between getting your way or bailing out of the relationship, well, you'll end up either with a partner who's a pushover or sleeping alone. If you want a well-functioning, long-term relationship, you'll have to learn to choose your battles. The art of compromise is the perfect place to start your lessons, because if you give your lover a little, they'll probably want to give back a lot. You'll feel a lot better once you learn to step back and let someone else take reins from time to time.
I hope you have enjoyed the valuable insight, wisdom and guidance of this astrology report. You might be a little curious about astrology and perhaps wondering how an astrologer can know so much about you!
Astrology is a mathematical system. It's all about applying meaning to numbers, or more specifically, finding meaning in the movements of the planets around the Sun, as viewed from our perspective here on earth. These planetary movements are easily captured and recorded with measurements, calculations, angles and so on.
That's why astrology works so well with computers, whose programs are also based on numbers and formulas. In 'the old days' -- thousands of years ago, when astrology was first recorded -- those early astrologers had to painstakingly observe the heavens and catalog their observations for the next generation of astrologers to build upon. Thank goodness for the computer age! Now we can simply use computers to make those calculations quickly and pull just the applicable pieces of information. Now, astrology is instant, based upon thousands of years of observations obtained through careful methodology.
Interpretations of planetary positions are based in part on ancient Greek and Roman mythology, but your astrological report is unique, describing you and you only. Even in the case of twin siblings, their birth charts differ from each other's in at least a few ways. And besides, no one amounts to just a simple interpretation of their birth chart; everyone's personality is complex. Your astrological report leaves plenty of room for variations based on your free will, personal growth and transformation over a lifetime.
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