The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: remember how perfect things seemed back in the beginning?
Or maybe you can't even recall those glorious early days, when the future looked rosy and the possibilities for your relationship seemed limitless.
What was it that broke the two of you up, anyway?
The answer to that question is complex and multilayered, to be sure.
Had you known what your relationship trouble spots were, then you could have been better prepared to take one of three routes; avoid them as best as you could, worked through them as a team, or decided it just wasn’t worth the trouble and move on.
Your Friction, Differences and Karma meters give you a quick, at-a-glance view of the strife in your previous relationship -- all the sources of irritation, stress and hostility that ultimately led to that final goodbye.
This information can help you come to terms with your breakup, but also make you aware of pitfalls you may encounter in the future.
7-10: Ouch -- you might still be bitter
4-6: You both knew which buttons to push
0-3: The Problem? A lack of passion.
7-10: You never got each other from day one.
4-6: Your differences were eye-opening... until they got annoying!
0-3: You could still be friends
7-10: It was doomed from the start.
4-6: Unconsciously, you both acted out old issues.
0-3: At least you made new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.
The two of you were hot, hot, hot. Mmm, everyone wanted some of what you had between you: sweaty, sticky, lovely lust. Your connection got physical fast, simply because neither of you could resist each other. Opposites attract, so they say, and in your case they were absolutely right, with the one's receptive energy meeting the other's force with explosive results. But there was (or should have been) life outside the bedroom, and you two didn't have very much of it. It could have been that one of you was using the other merely to slake a physical urge -- not a problem if both of you were in on the agreement, but nasty and painful if one of you was looking for love and the other just lust. One of you may also have been very jealous and possessive of the other as well. Had you extended your compatibility beyond the bedroom, things might have gone differently. Did you share interests in common? If not, you needed to develop some. You had to talk about your values, your hopes, your dreams. Being close on one level does not an emotional connection make; you needed to spend more time bonding and less time smooching. You've lots of love to give; in the future make sure it's on more than the physical plane.
Few could resist your magnetic, magnificent lover, and certainly you were not immune to their many, many charms. So why did you find yourself chafing under the bonds of your link? You were annoyed and irritated by things large and small; you picked fights when your sweetie would rather have been snuggling on the sofa or making a hand-in-hand grand entrance at some glam party. Why was it you couldn't seem to relax and enjoy a relationship that looked so good on paper? Your relationship showed exceeding promise, if you could only have made it past rough spots you experienced. You and your mate shared a certain generosity of spirit, enlivened by a love of good living and a desire to connect deeply with others. Yes, your pairing was challenging -- because you demanded the best from yourself and from others, and neither one of you let the other one slack off. You needed to learn to live up to each other's expectations. If you could have risen to the challenge, you might have crafted the kind of remarkable relationship that would make others envy what you had.
Did you bother to look before you leapt into your lover's arms? Or did you just follow your heart and your foolish, fierce emotions? There was a lot that drew you to your lover, including the incendiary passion you felt in each other's arms. But you were equally repulsed by your lover's unpredictable behavior. You were unable to get the commitment you sought. Heck, you're still not even sure if you ever truly knew your lover. Sometimes you sensed an unfathomable distance between you. Was that love you were feeling, or simply an infatuation that couldn't last?This was not one of those loves that was cozy and sweet, like a cat curled up by a fireplace. Rather, you grasped on to a live wire. You were faced with a choice -- you could keep holding on, enjoying all that was electric and exciting and thrilling about your pairing; or you could let go and relax into a quieter, easier existence. If you had chosen the former, you would have had to learn to ask fewer questions, to demand less, to ride out changes and tumult rather than expecting or asking for security. It might have been an amazing ride -- if you'd had the stomach for all those ups and downs.
What was the old Chinese proverb? May you live in exciting times, or something like that? What can you tell of exciting times, what with that great, frantic, scary sweetie you had grabbed hold of? The passion was something else, yes, oh yes, but the side-effects were brutal. You couldn't find your footing here, you were too well-aware of your lover's propensity for sudden upheaval. Life-changing decisions were made in an instant, and you were along for the ride, for good or for bad. It all left you feeling pretty insecure -- and perhaps even fearful that your lover may have had eyes for another. It could have been that you already had fidelity issues, and promises to do better next time didn't help you when your lover was so darn unpredictable.You had a wild ride with this one, but it was not without its pleasures. You were never bored, always wide awake and present for whatever you were handed. Trust in one thing: Your lover was never there merely for duty's sake. If you were getting plenty of attention, there was a reason why. You shouldn't have questioned or worried. You should have just laid back and enjoyed the goodies; this was one time it would have been better to feel than to think.
Romantic success seemed so tantalizingly close for you and your lover. But were you looking at things as they really were, or as you wished they were? There was something insubstantial in your pairing, something secret or unexpressed lurking right beneath the surface. Did one of you have issues from the past you'd never admitted or worked through? Was one of you up to something secretive and unhealthy? Whatever the issue was, it caused problems between you, problems you couldn't solve without owning up to exactly what was wrong.So you should have sat down together. Talked about your feelings. What were each of you looking for in your relationship? What was it you needed that you were not getting? And, most painfully, what parts of you did you fear were unlovable? It could have turned out that your fears and anxieties were not grounded in reality. And in any case, you would have had to let the real you be known if you were going to be loved and accepted. You didn't let your true self be seen. You feared that when you opened up you would be rejected. Your lover had tender regard for you; letting that love in to your private, bruised parts would have started a glorious healing process.
You moved through this relationship like a lumbering bear, rather than a graceful lover. You viewed your partner as oversensitive, but the truth was that there was something behind your partner's pleas for gentleness. You acted too quickly, often choosing to do what was expedient rather than what was right. You ignored the emotional component of your life, preferring to bury your emotions in actions. You slapped Band-Aids on problems rather than working for a true solution. At least you were sensitive enough to see the truth. You genuinely didn't mean harm; it's just that your lover seemed more concerned with good living than getting ahead, and that bugged you. You may also have felt jealous of the many who fell under your sexy partner's spell -- you needed to beware your jealousy, because it gave your partner a weapon to use against you. Instead, the key was to talk before you acted, and think before you talked. You needed to slow down a little. What's the good in driving through life so quickly that you don't have time to stop along the way and enjoy yourself? There is so much here to savor if you only let yourself.
You chose yourself such a sweet, loving lover -- why did you grow apart? You viewed everything from a distance, loved but not loving. Was it jealousy that hardened your heart? It's true that your sweetie was flirtatious and sensual; so different than you. It was their second nature to gather great groups of admirers. This didn't mean that you didn't have it all, just that there were so many people who envied you for what you had. But to a more serious, restrained person like you, it looked like your dear one was tweaking your green-eyed side on purpose.You needed to relax. Your mate was not one to sneak and betray. You bagged yourself a lover who was really in love -- with you, even though you weren't acting so adorably. You should have rewarded your sweetie's attentions with some romantic gestures of your own. Breakfast in bed? Tender massages? You needed to stop withholding your affection; everything you gave would have been returned to you. A little energy spent on physical pursuits and affection could have produced just the thaw between you that you were looking for. Next time, don't be quite to standoffish. Jump into the fray and you'll find it's a lot warmer in there.
What secrets lay behind your lover's dreamy, far-off gaze? You had no idea, really, and the mystery drove you mad. It seemed so romantic to be attached to such a compelling, enigmatic sweetie. Someday, you hoped, you'd find out all the secrets. But until then, you filled the information void with your fantasies. And therein lay your problem. You were not involved in something solid and real at all; instead you were locked in on a shifting miasma. It was darned sexy, and lots of fun. But it was like mist, or fog; when you tried to hold on to your lover things slipped through your hand and refused to be captured. Could you ever have gained a more solid footing on this relationship? It's doubtful. You never did, and what you had started to drift away. You couldn't get a fix on what your lover was feeling or where you were going -- but to be honest, at that point you were too busy enjoying the fantasy to try to inject some reality into the setup. You needed to start examining what you were doing with a more critical eye. Remember, the fantasy is often better than the reality.
Ultimately, you may have wanted more from this relationship than your lover did. You were so very attracted, it's true; your lover possessed an original point of view, and a stylish way of doing things that impressed you. You were charmed, dazzled, turned on your head. So you ignored all the warning signs you should have been heeding. Ask yourself some difficult questions. When the subject of permanence came up, did your sweetie offer up plans of growing old with you in some rocker somewhere? Or did a strange silence suddenly fall between you? It would have been better to have such conversations sooner rather than later, you know, when you were laying your heart on the line. If this thing was going to work, you would have had to scale back your expectations, and rustled up a little of that confidence that's always been yours to command. You didn't expect your lover to be the cuddle-by-the-fire type, did you? Instead, you should have reveled in a connection that was less constant, but more passionate. After all, who needed to snooze on a sofa when you could have had long, hot sleepless nights instead?
Are you sitting down? Here's a newsflash: Your lover saw you as a great big wet blanket. Here your sweetie trusted you to be the repository of their most heartfelt of dreams and hopes, and you swooped in with your great grasp on reality and crushed their dreams like an ant under a workboot. It hurt. It was mean. And yet you couldn't seem to stop doing it, even though you knew you were misbehaving. Your lover was sweet, optimistic and certainly stuck on you. But all the drifty dreaminess drove you mad. Meetings went awry, conversations drifted off -- how many hours did you spent waiting for your late-again lover to show up?The problem was that you and your sweetie were not particularly well-matched. You were brisk and clever, while your partner was slower and more inspired by emotions than intellect. The key to peace between you was your acceptance of the fact that your way was not the only way. You got things done well and efficiently, but you didn't always stop to smell the flowers. You could have learned more about yourself even as you settled into a delicious dalliance, if you had allowed your lover to show you the delights of a less driven life. Something to keep in mind for tomorrow.
Your lover was the ocean, and you were helplessly swept away by the waves. You were usually one to handle your affairs with a light, sure touch. Others swooned or wept in your wake, but you were always the one on top, confident, smiling. This particular person, however, had flipped your switch but good. You were drawn to your sweetie right from the start. You ignored your good sense and went too far, too fast. Sometimes you felt helpless in the grip of a towering passion. Yet your lover wasn't similarly enthralled. Did you suspect infidelity? Did strangers call your house and hang up when you answered? Was your lover absent for unusual lengths of time?You feared all was lost, but is did not have to be so. If you wished to stay where you were, you would have had to work harder than you ever had before. This lover would never dance to your tune; instead, you needed to learn how to play it cool and not reveal how affected you were by your lover's foibles. This was a bird who would not sing in your cage -- but if you had let it fly free, and it may have come back to you.
You chose yourself such a sweet-natured lover, didn't you? Kindhearted, loving, lovable. Your family approved, your friends were big fans, everyone told you how lucky you were to have landed this fine fish. So why didn't you just relax and enjoy yourself? The unease you felt was beneath the surface, almost unconscious, and you couldn't quite put your finger on it. Everything looked great on paper. You shared so many qualities, including a certain integrity, a desire to be genuinely good and helpful to others. Why couldn't seem to connect? Your relationship felt forced, strained. You struggled to make conversation. You just couldn't relax. What you feared in your heart of hearts was, unfortunately, the case -- yours was not a love that would ever run smoothly. You could never have relaxed into easy contentment with this person. The fundamental problem you glimpsed never dissipated. But there was much to draw you together. There was much that originally attracted you to your lover, including that expansive sense of humor. Had it been worth enough to you both, you might have found a way to work around the rough spots. You each meant well, though, and that counts for a lot.
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Your relationship was bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there was not a strong connection between you. But you were able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who chose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Didn't you always wonder about them? What did they think would happen if they weren't together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation was not a problem for you two; in fact, you may have done it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this was surely true of you and your partner. You took great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have had to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each have been involved in your own orbits that you suddenly realized that days or even weeks had gone by without you two sharing a full day together.You shouldn't have let that happen. You needed to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often can turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two had chosen to be together, and likewise, you could have chosen to grow together.
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