The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: remember how perfect things seemed back in the beginning?
Or maybe you can't even recall those glorious early days, when the future looked rosy and the possibilities for your relationship seemed limitless.
What was it that broke the two of you up, anyway?
The answer to that question is complex and multilayered, to be sure.
Had you known what your relationship trouble spots were, then you could have been better prepared to take one of three routes; avoid them as best as you could, worked through them as a team, or decided it just wasn’t worth the trouble and move on.
Your Friction, Differences and Karma meters give you a quick, at-a-glance view of the strife in your previous relationship -- all the sources of irritation, stress and hostility that ultimately led to that final goodbye.
This information can help you come to terms with your breakup, but also make you aware of pitfalls you may encounter in the future.
7-10: Ouch -- you might still be bitter
4-6: You both knew which buttons to push
0-3: The Problem? A lack of passion.
7-10: You never got each other from day one.
4-6: Your differences were eye-opening... until they got annoying!
0-3: You could still be friends
7-10: It was doomed from the start.
4-6: Unconsciously, you both acted out old issues.
0-3: At least you made new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.
Mars square Mars
You met your match, a lover as brilliant and magnetic as you are. So why did you get so pissed off? It seemed like your lover was always trying to steal your thunder. If you had big news, your mate found a way to top it; if you were getting attention, your mate stepped all over it. You both tended to boss each other around; there were constant arguments over how to do every little thing. You picked fights over the stupidest things, and other people may have told you that your simmering anger made you difficult to be around.This kind of conflict dimmed your light. When you were constantly using your powers to block your partner, you shifted your energies away from your own goals. That was a mistake. What might you have done differently? Been the bigger person. If you had freely given your lover more attention and credit, they would have stopped agitating so fiercely. The ego flare-ups would have died down and you would have felt that 'us against the world, honey' feeling again. If your dueling energies were conserved, even joined, the pair of you could have accomplished great things together. It would have taken energy to get the ball rolling -- but the payoff could have been splendid. Keep that in mind for next time.
Jupiter square Uranus
What was the old Chinese proverb? May you live in exciting times, or something like that? What can you tell of exciting times, what with that great, frantic, scary sweetie you had grabbed hold of? The passion was something else, yes, oh yes, but the side-effects were brutal. You couldn't find your footing here, you were too well-aware of your lover's propensity for sudden upheaval. Life-changing decisions were made in an instant, and you were along for the ride, for good or for bad. It all left you feeling pretty insecure -- and perhaps even fearful that your lover may have had eyes for another. It could have been that you already had fidelity issues, and promises to do better next time didn't help you when your lover was so darn unpredictable.You had a wild ride with this one, but it was not without its pleasures. You were never bored, always wide awake and present for whatever you were handed. Trust in one thing: Your lover was never there merely for duty's sake. If you were getting plenty of attention, there was a reason why. You shouldn't have questioned or worried. You should have just laid back and enjoyed the goodies; this was one time it would have been better to feel than to think.
Venus opposite Mars
You could barely keep your eyes off your lover. Did anyone else see it? That grace, that elegance, that smoldering sexiness that made the little hairs on the back of your neck stand up? Such was the lusciousness of your love, a lusty, steamy physical connection that others envied. But there were downsides aplenty, were there not? Neither one of you could stand to let the other off your leash. Jealous conflicts arose often; if you went to a party you were as likely as not to spend the whole car ride home arguing about who was flirting with whom and how and where and why. You often viewed your partner as rather aggro and inconsiderate, while you may have been viewed as ultra-sensitive and whiny. Both of you sometimes felt as if you were only being used. But who cared about that when what you had was so hot, hot, hot? While others were tepid and tame, you two were bubbling with fun and ardor. To make this one stick, the key would have been to enjoy all the conflict -- it was just a warm-up to another kind of wrestling match altogether. If you had put a lid on your jealous side and given your lover satisfaction there would have been simply no urge to stray.
Sun opposite Mars
What a pair you and your lover made -- both vital and driven, passionate and forceful. You impressed each other from the beginning, and as time went on you remained no less dazzled by your mate's confidence and boldness. The bad news? All that energy was too often directed at tearing each other down rather than building each other up. You bickered over things large and small, each of you determined to win at any cost. Tempers flared easily -- you may even have heard from friends or loved ones that being around the pair of you made others nervous, as they never knew when sparks would strike. The answer might have been in accepting the polarities between you. You shared many attributes, including a certain daring. But you would never have agreed on everything. You needed to figure out ways to reduce your exposure to your lover's least-admirable qualities, and offer compromises rather than issuing demands. You didn't have to think of compromise as losing the battle that always seemed to rage between you -- instead it was winning the ultimate war to stay together. You may be someone who likes it hot. If so, give a thought to ways you can head off the riskier aspects of that passion.
Mercury opposite Mars
What a pair of cranks you were! Picky, combative, aggro: If it weren't for fighting, you wouldn't have talked at all. OK, OK, that wasn't strictly true, but there was an awful lot of friction in your pairing. You saw your lover as aggressive and too hair-trigger; your partner saw you as grandiose and yappy, like a little dog with a big bark. It's likely that when fights occurred, your partner wanted to just come up with an easy solution and then move on, while you wanted to belabor the point. All-night bitch sessions were your specialty, were they not? And storming off was your lover's, right? Neither one of you had any patience, and when you got started on one of your fighting jags, they were liable to last for days -- or weeks! But hey, you picked yourself an equal. No wilting lily for you; you chose a lover who could keep up with you in every way. And ultimately, the challenge would have been worth it. The key to calming your emotional storms was patience. If you could have learned to slow down, calm down, listen to each other, and form compromises instead of issuing orders, you could have had one hell of a ride.
Mars opposite Uranus
Your lover said you were paranoid. You were imagining things. You were irrational, crazy, overreacting. But the plain truth was that everything you feared was actually the case. Your lover wasn't as trustworthy as you'd have liked. Clandestine flirtations, or worse, outright infidelities, were a distinct possibility. You knew it in your heart, but tried to deny it, and the result was a war between your heart and mind that had you quite perplexed and upset. But then, you didn't set this one up right from the very start, did you? You got involved too quickly -- you certainly got physical without thinking first. Frequently you got in situations where you and your lover were quibbling nonstop, both of you unwilling to compromise or cooperate. The answer was within you. The lover you chose would never have been one of those cozy, sit-by-the-fire-and-purr types. You would never have gotten a calm, content connection with this one. But who wanted calm when you had fire and excitement? If this was the way you wanted it, you could have embraced the tumult. Let go of your desires to control. And you just may have found that the excitement of your tempestuous love relationship was enough to tide you over during the rough times. If you're ready to trade in the roller coaster for a merry-go-round, choose a calmer partner next time!
Saturn opposite Mercury
You heard a laundry list of your failures, did you not? You're stiff. Serious. Absolutely no fun, a pain in the tush, and depressing to boot. It would all be unforgivable, if it weren't true. But your partner was no prize pig either, cursed with the knack of always saying the wrong thing at the wrong time, embarrassing you in front of friends and coworkers. What was interesting about the pair of you was that you hated in each other what you feared in yourself. Your mate was well aware of a certain tendency towards sloth and slack, and hated the way your drive and stick-to-itness pointed up those failings. Meanwhile, you recognized in yourself a lack of lightness and fun.Instead of criticizing each other for what you lacked, why didn't you pass on your strengths? If you could have bent a little, you could have taken on a few of your partner's quick, easy ways, and been a little easier to approach. You could have had more fun, in many areas of your life. Your mate, on the other hand, could have stood a little more discipline and responsibility. You needed to stop resisting and relax. There was nothing that would have harmed you here. Clear, forthright communication could have solved many of your problems, and it didn't have to hurt.
Sun quincunx Jupiter
You chose yourself such a sweet-natured lover, didn't you? Kindhearted, loving, lovable. Your family approved, your friends were big fans, everyone told you how lucky you were to have landed this fine fish. So why didn't you just relax and enjoy yourself? The unease you felt was beneath the surface, almost unconscious, and you couldn't quite put your finger on it. Everything looked great on paper. You shared so many qualities, including a certain integrity, a desire to be genuinely good and helpful to others. Why couldn't seem to connect? Your relationship felt forced, strained. You struggled to make conversation. You just couldn't relax. What you feared in your heart of hearts was, unfortunately, the case -- yours was not a love that would ever run smoothly. You could never have relaxed into easy contentment with this person. The fundamental problem you glimpsed never dissipated. But there was much to draw you together. There was much that originally attracted you to your lover, including that expansive sense of humor. Had it been worth enough to you both, you might have found a way to work around the rough spots. You each meant well, though, and that counts for a lot.
Sun quincunx Saturn
You're the kind of person who drives through life looking in the rearview mirror. Yeah, your past wasn't ideal. People haven't always treated you as kindly as they could have, and your parents were anything but supportive. But why do you marinate in your misery? That victim label doesn't flatter you, you know. You're such a vital, vibrant soul; don't let your sunshine be dimmed by your rage -- and yes, rage is what it is, masquerading as hurt. Now, speaking of dim, it is true you chose a rather stodgy lover; serious where you were lighthearted, weighty and solid where you were impetuous and moving in too many directions. Your lover pulled out your best qualities simply by acting as a reality check. Yet your disparities troubled you. You didn't feel as connected, or as comfortable as you could have. The two of you couldn't seem to relax together into something sweet and easy. But if you could have found a way to unload some of your emotional baggage, to become more comfortable in your own skin, you would have found more ease in your pairing. Work on these sticky issues before you throw your hat into the arena of love next time.
Saturn quincunx Sun
You and your lover were a curious pair, all right, but that didn't mean you were not Meant to Be. It's just that it looked a little strange on paper. You were all reality and discipline -- the harder something is to work towards, the more you liked it. Your lover, on the other hand, tended towards the indulgent in all things: food, drink, work, play. The polarity fascinated you. Never had you found a partner this hedonistic, so attuned towards the physical rather than the intellectual. At first you were so overwhelmed by your feelings that you went along helplessly for the ride; but with a little distance and time you developed disdain for your mate's way of doing things. You saw yourself as the adult, and your lover as a willful, silly child. Your contempt was palpable, and it was no fun to live with. You needed to take another look at your sweetie, and remember your original attraction. If you had found a middle ground between your serious drive and your partner's lighthearted skip, you'd have had something to reckon with indeed: a solid, stable partnership enlivened by laughter and passion. You were the one who could have gotten things started but you dilly-dallied a little too long.
No conjunctions
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Your relationship was bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there was not a strong connection between you. But you were able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who chose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Didn't you always wonder about them? What did they think would happen if they weren't together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation was not a problem for you two; in fact, you may have done it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this was surely true of you and your partner. You took great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have had to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each have been involved in your own orbits that you suddenly realized that days or even weeks had gone by without you two sharing a full day together.You shouldn't have let that happen. You needed to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often can turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two had chosen to be together, and likewise, you could have chosen to grow together.
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