The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: remember how perfect things seemed back in the beginning?
Or maybe you can't even recall those glorious early days, when the future looked rosy and the possibilities for your relationship seemed limitless.
What was it that broke the two of you up, anyway?
The answer to that question is complex and multilayered, to be sure.
Had you known what your relationship trouble spots were, then you could have been better prepared to take one of three routes; avoid them as best as you could, worked through them as a team, or decided it just wasn’t worth the trouble and move on.
Your Friction, Differences and Karma meters give you a quick, at-a-glance view of the strife in your previous relationship -- all the sources of irritation, stress and hostility that ultimately led to that final goodbye.
This information can help you come to terms with your breakup, but also make you aware of pitfalls you may encounter in the future.
7-10: Ouch -- you might still be bitter
4-6: You both knew which buttons to push
0-3: The Problem? A lack of passion.
7-10: You never got each other from day one.
4-6: Your differences were eye-opening... until they got annoying!
0-3: You could still be friends
7-10: It was doomed from the start.
4-6: Unconsciously, you both acted out old issues.
0-3: At least you made new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.
Mars square Mercury
Nervous intensity was at the center of your relationship, and it was an awfully shaky ground to build upon: emotional quicksand instead of solid, dependable rock. You often found yourself furious with your lover, who blurted out the worst things at the most inopportune moments (and like as not in front of the worst people -- it was best to keep this lover away from your boss!). Too often were you wounded with the unvarnished truth; unfortunately, you were apt to discount what your lover said instead of taking helpful hints on board. The smallest issues seemed to erupt into big arguments; the two of you misunderstood each other's intentions and actions. But it didn't have to be all bad news. The reason your relationship lasted as long as it did was because you could bring out good qualities in each other. The competitiveness simmering under the surface kept things interesting, sparkling. There was an energy between you that couldn't be denied. You should have tried approaching each situation with calm, talking slowly and listening more. Had a little cool breeze blown into your relationship, it might have been easier to relax rather than react impulsively. You won't make the same mistake next time.
Sun square Pluto
Color you green, because you were possessive and ill-tempered in this relationship. You landed yourself a big fish that time: powerful, magnetic, impressive. Every head turned when you walked in the room with this special someone on your arm, and you liked it. You basked in the reflected glow of your sweetheart, no less so because you gave off a vibrant, confident sparkle of your own. Truly you were a power couple, a pair others envy. But behind the scenes all was not so sweet. Both you and your sweetie tended to be imperious, fractious, spiteful. Worse, your usual confidence was shaken by your lover's secretive ways. You couldn't seem to get your mojo working, you felt out-of-sorts and angry. You may even have viewed your partner's behavior as abusive. If you had really wanted this to work out, the secret to managing this difficult love relationship would have been to exhibit a little more patience, and a lot more equanimity. Your partner wouldn't have pulled away if you hadn't demanded so much reassurance. If you'd been the person you'd like to come home to, your mate might have been home more often.
Mars square Jupiter
There was something unhealthy about this relationship, and you finally woke up to it. What were the unsavory acts or emotions your lover drew from you? Your worst side was emphasized in your sweetie's presence; you became more aggressive, temperamental, egotistical and impatient, while your lover's tendency towards laziness and excess seemed to swell when you were around. You two may have had accumulated debt together (perhaps credit card debt, gained from your tendency to spend too much on fripperies), and you had difficulty keeping to a budget. Even worse, your sharply dissonant views on matters like beliefs, ethics, politics and education meant that you had difficulty finding common ground. Nonetheless, if, despite this, you still had wanted to make this work, there was an opportunity here for a fine connection. You shared a certain drive and passion, and were both equally openhearted and loving. If you could have found a way to compromise, a way to look past your differences and create new habits that served you both rather than creating problems, this could have been a very solid and sweet relationship indeed.
Venus square Uranus
Yours was the kind of romance that makes for great stories later -- in other words, it wasn't always easy. You and your lover were drawn to each other right from the start. It all happened so fast. One minute you were on your first date, the next you were on the phone to your best friend saying 'This is the ONE!' You fell into love so quickly that you didn't look where you were headed, and therein lay the problem. It's just that you chose yourself such a darned tricky, unstable sweetie; full of electric excitement, of drama and blistering, little-hairs-standing-up-on-the-back-of-your-neck passion. But as you no doubt found out, they also signified upheaval, disruption, a heaping helping of the wrong kind of excitement.Well, if nothing else, you had yourself one heck of a ride. If you were willing to hang on, accepting all the bumps and jolts that were sure to come your way, more thrills would have been yours. One thing you could say for your relationship -- it was absolutely never boring. You may decide that next time you want a little smoother ride.
Saturn square Saturn
Whether you believe in karma or not, it came back to bite you in this relationship. You were getting the same treatment you doled out to someone else in the past, and you didn't like it one bit. There was an age difference between you and your partner, one that likely hovered around 7 years, and it caused a schism between you. The older of your pairing treated the younger one more like a wayward teenager than an equal partner: Rules were set down, deviations were criticized, dreams were crushed. The younger partner was left to play the part of a naughty child, rebelling in secret while submitting outwardly. And both of you thought you knew better than your mate, a problem that contributed to your not listening to each other.The solution to your problems would have been to lighten up a little while still holding on to what worked in your relationship. You helped keep each other stay focused and achieve your goals. But you didn't have a lot of fun together. You needed to make time for activities you both enjoyed, and not neglect the sweet side of your pairing. If you could have worked through your issues, you had a pairing in which much work and accomplishment was possible.
Venus opposite Mars
You could barely keep your eyes off your lover. Did anyone else see it? That grace, that elegance, that smoldering sexiness that made the little hairs on the back of your neck stand up? Such was the lusciousness of your love, a lusty, steamy physical connection that others envied. But there were downsides aplenty, were there not? Neither one of you could stand to let the other off your leash. Jealous conflicts arose often; if you went to a party you were as likely as not to spend the whole car ride home arguing about who was flirting with whom and how and where and why. You often viewed your partner as rather aggro and inconsiderate, while you may have been viewed as ultra-sensitive and whiny. Both of you sometimes felt as if you were only being used. But who cared about that when what you had was so hot, hot, hot? While others were tepid and tame, you two were bubbling with fun and ardor. To make this one stick, the key would have been to enjoy all the conflict -- it was just a warm-up to another kind of wrestling match altogether. If you had put a lid on your jealous side and given your lover satisfaction there would have been simply no urge to stray.
Mars opposite Pluto
Hey, jealous lover! You assumed the role of a punitive first-grade teacher: standing over your lover, shaking your finger at naughty behavior, hectoring and blustering. Unfortunately, in order to avoid your lectures, your lover turned off. They weren't listening, so why were you bothering to express yourself so forcefully and frequently? You two were at odds, bickering over small things to avoid talking about the Great Big Thing neither of you wanted to face. But hiding your head in the sand got you exactly nowhere. You two really needed to face facts and look at obstacles truthfully. You and your lover weren't particularly well-matched, it is true. While you were all speed and action and energy, your lover was dark, secretive, maybe even a bit cruel. But something in you craved the abuse and invited the ill-treatment. If you had really wanted to make this work, you needed to find a balance. You needed to get as much as you gave -- so if you found you were not receiving as much affection and attention, you needed to put your energies elsewhere and dial down your emotions a bit. Your lover would have appreciated the break, and you would have gotten back into balance. But given your mismatch, you are probably better off apart.
Mercury opposite Jupiter
Yakkity yak yak. That was you and your sweetie, big ol' gasbags full of opinions and thoughts and plans and musings, but very little in the way of real understanding of each other. You started out with the intention of working out your problems -- but before too long, a discussion of something personal turned into an exchange of philosophies, and then likely an argument that continued into the night. On your part, you got annoyed with your lover's grandiose dreams and rather tenuous grasp on reality, while your lover often saw you as nitpicky and harsh, the emotional equivalent of a big bucket of water poured on their parade.Though it may have seemed that you were swimming in circles, you were actually on a fairly direct path to settled bliss. You and your lover brought out some very interesting qualities in each other. You egged each other on, revved each other up. Though you could get PO'd with each other, all the friction was just as likely to turn you on. And face it -- to you the only fate worse than a tumultuous relationship was a boring one.
Jupiter opposite Jupiter
The pair of you had much in common, but sometimes that's not a good thing. The problems at the core of your relationship were bound up in trust and tolerance. Neither of you respected the other's viewpoints in matter of politics, values, your overall world views. Worse, not only did you each believe you were in the right, you tried to convert the other to your way of thinking. Fights erupted, and you both said things you didn't mean. Finding it difficult to make peace, both of you blustered and roared, yet very little got really settled. Even when you managed to smooth things over, neither of you believed that things would get any better. And you were certainly not willing to work any harder than your partner was. But it didn't have to be all gloomy and fatal. Face it, you focused only on the negatives. There were actually many positive sides to your pairing. Each of you was clever and kindhearted, generous to a fault and loving. If you each could simply have learned how to give the other the benefit of the doubt and accepted that someone else's views were equally as perfect as your own, you'd have gotten along much better -- together and with those around you in general. It's something you can start on now!
Sun quincunx Mars
Oh, you poor thing. You tried so hard, didn't you? You strived to improve yourself, tune up your relationship, make yourself clear. You were convinced that if your lover would only understand your point of view, if you could find the right words, that all the awkwardness between you would disappear. Sorry, but it was not going to be that easy. Think of it like this: You were a square peg trying to fit into a round hole. You and your mate had much in common: verve, drive, a zest for life. But there were many other things you disagreed on. You, in particular, exhibited signs of arrogance, jealousy, insecurity; all things you knew made you less attractive to your dazzling catch of a mate. There were others who wanted to take your place and you knew it. But you couldn't seem to stop trying to explain yourself once and for all and clear things up between you. Nothing you said did the trick, though. The key was in your behavior instead of your speech. Were you delightful to come home to, loving, interested in what your mate said and did? No? If not, nothing you could say would have taken the place of that lack and maybe you are better off apart.
Saturn quincunx Sun
You and your lover were a curious pair, all right, but that didn't mean you were not Meant to Be. It's just that it looked a little strange on paper. You were all reality and discipline -- the harder something is to work towards, the more you liked it. Your lover, on the other hand, tended towards the indulgent in all things: food, drink, work, play. The polarity fascinated you. Never had you found a partner this hedonistic, so attuned towards the physical rather than the intellectual. At first you were so overwhelmed by your feelings that you went along helplessly for the ride; but with a little distance and time you developed disdain for your mate's way of doing things. You saw yourself as the adult, and your lover as a willful, silly child. Your contempt was palpable, and it was no fun to live with. You needed to take another look at your sweetie, and remember your original attraction. If you had found a middle ground between your serious drive and your partner's lighthearted skip, you'd have had something to reckon with indeed: a solid, stable partnership enlivened by laughter and passion. You were the one who could have gotten things started but you dilly-dallied a little too long.
Saturn quincunx Mercury
That old story about the tortoise and the hare was borne out in your pairing. You were the stolid tortoise, steadfastly working away on your ambitions, while your partner was the nervous hare, always hopping from one thing to another. Not only was that lack of focus annoying, it was distracting. You were not able to get as much done with your mate around, and it bothered you that your sweetie seemed to hold you back from reaching your potential, rather than bringing out the best in you. It always seemed like you had to be the parent, the one to to take care of business while your partner flitted around socializing and having fun. You liked the control, but the responsibility was a drag. You kept doing it, however, because if you didn't, it didn't get done.You needed to let loose of the reins of responsibility. Your partner was never going to step up to the plate unless you had started backing off a little. You could have started with small things -- where were you going to go to dinner? What's the vacation spot for this year? Then moved up to more major decisions. It may have been a slow process, but instead it couldn't move forward at all because you two didn't start the ball rolling. Joint decision-making is a learned skill, and you're a good learner.
No conjunctions
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Your relationship was bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there was not a strong connection between you. But you were able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who chose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Didn't you always wonder about them? What did they think would happen if they weren't together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation was not a problem for you two; in fact, you may have done it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this was surely true of you and your partner. You took great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have had to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each have been involved in your own orbits that you suddenly realized that days or even weeks had gone by without you two sharing a full day together.You shouldn't have let that happen. You needed to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often can turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two had chosen to be together, and likewise, you could have chosen to grow together.
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