The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: every couple faces a certain set of challenges, and the number and type of challenges determine whether your relationship will be merely interesting or out-and-out difficult. At The Astrologer, we've broken down these challenges into three sections: sources of friction, the major differences between you, and the karmic ties from past lives that draw you together today.
On the first two meters, Friction and Differences, a score somewhere in the middle is probably best. Friction can be a good thing -- after all, the same energy that makes you lust after each other also makes you fight. And we all know that a good argument, like good sex, clears the air and lets you know your passion is alive! The same goes for differences between you in the ways that you think and view the world: These contrasts keep the relationship dynamic.
Karma, on the other hand, isn't such a great thing, even if your past-life bonds were positive ones. This lifetime is... Read more
7-10: Open warfare
4-6: The occasional dispute
0-3: Whatever you have to say dear
7-10: Who the $#@% are you, again?
4-6: Some interesting contrasts
0-3: Two Peas in a pod
7-10: New love, same old story
4-6: Total deja-vu
0-3: No past life ties (whew!)
Hmm, now this is an odd pairing. An assertive force linked with the watery dreamer. Opposites attract, huh? It's likely you're befuddled and bewitched by your lover's mysteries. You can't see clearly where the two of you are, and it tweaks both your ego and your intellect. That's all fine and good, but there's a dark side to your pairing. One or both of you is repeating unhealthy patterns, bringing leftovers from the past into your present. There may be issues around addictions -- to drugs, to alcohol, to unwholesome behavior of many kinds. And worst of all, your relationship is insubstantial, misty, a thing composed of passionate nights that crumbles to dust under day-to-day stresses.You must let some sunlight into your relationship. Stop subsisting on passion alone, and start actually getting to know the lover you chose. Talk about your dreams, make plans. Make sure you're both moving in the same direction. This relationship could bring out the very best in you, but you've got to be willing to put in some work instead of just drifting along like two balloons buffeted by every wind.
You're losing your temper with your love, and it's hardly attractive. Clearly you were taking orders from your heart and not your brain when you hooked up with your current amour, because you chose someone rather ill-suited for you on paper. While you are all power and force, drive and demand, your lover is a bit, well, wishy-washy. You want to get up and go and make and do; your lover is happier sitting in a quiet corner dreaming the day away. You think you've made plans and formulated goals, but when you turn around to check that your lover's on the same page as you, suddenly all your control's slipped away. It confuses you, and that makes you both furious and difficult to live with. The answer lies in confronting your patterns. Haven't you been having the same conversations, the same tedious arguments, over and over again? Stop repeating yourself, and stop imagining that simply confronting your lover one more time will make things change. The time has come for creative thinking, new ways of tackling the problems between you. Try something new, because what you have been doing so far certainly isn't working.
When you first met your lover you were attracted to the sweet adaptability you found. Here was a lover who would let you steer the ship, deciding where you went and with whom. Here was someone who would listen to your stories, sympathize with your troubles, support your dreams. You love all that, but somehow it's not enough. Your partner's loving and sympathetic enough, but awfully insubstantial. You feel like you can't trust your sweetie to always be there for you -- your lover means well but finds it difficult to conform to plans, keep agreements, maintain boundaries. You feel like you need something more solid and stable.It is true you will face many challenges in this relationship, but if your love is strong enough you can conquer your difficulties. You must tackle your issues squarely. Learn the art of compromise. If your lover can bend to meet you halfway, bend likewise. Decide how you will keep your patterns from repeating. It will take discipline on both your parts, but with some time and practice these new patterns will come more naturally.
You move through this relationship like a lumbering bear, rather than a graceful lover. You view your partner as oversensitive, but the truth is that there's something behind your partner's pleas for gentleness. You act too quickly, often choosing to do what's expedient rather than what's right. You ignore the emotional component of your life, preferring to bury your emotions in actions. You slap Band-Aids on problems rather than working for a true solution. At least you're sensitive enough to see the truth. You genuinely don't mean harm; it's just that your lover seems more concerned with good living than getting ahead, and that bugs you. You may also feel jealous of the many who fall under your sexy partner's spell -- beware your jealousy, because it gives your partner a weapon to use against you. Instead, try to talk before you act, and think before you talk. Slow down a little. What's the good in driving through life so quickly you don't have time to stop along the way and enjoy yourself? There could be so much here to savor if you just let yourself.
Acid burning in your stomach, your thoughts racing, your heart beating its way out of your chest -- does this sound familiar to you? Your lover has you entertaining a certain green-eyed monster, and it's awfully unsexy. Would you want to come home to a lover who demands that you account for your time? Hardly. But as much as you want to play it cool, your possessive attachment to your partner seems to make it impossible. You view everyone your partner comes near with suspicion -- and you've even been making embarrassing scenes in front of others. Not to mention how miserable you've been making things at home. So what's the key to smoothing this path? Both of you need to recommit to each other. Are you where you want to be? Are you headed in a direction that both of you favor? Why are you with each other? Once you answer these questions, you can start to formulate a plan for taking on your problems. Don't be afraid to start. After all, what you've been doing hasn't been working. Time to try something new, break out of your patterns, and create a passionate and equal future together.
When your relationship is on track, the pair of you are an unbeatable team: frolicsome, lovey-dovey, almost sickeningly adorable. When you're on the outs, however, you're even more unbearable. You lecture endlessly; your partner pouts and complains. And all too often you give in to your tendency to pontificate, embarrassing your lover. Remember, love affairs are supposed to be a meeting of equals, not a painful process in which you try to mold someone you find snobbishly substandard into someone you think 'worthy' of your affection.Some blunt advice? Appreciate what you've got: a glimmering social butterfly that others envy you for, a bright light in a sea of dim dullness. Try to see your lover through the eyes of others. Find the person who once attracted you so much, before everyday stressors wore down your patience and affection. There is much here to value if you can tone down your bossy streak. Your lover's intellect can't match yours, and your interests will never mesh completely. But if you can focus instead on what you share and enjoy about each other, you can keep things on a more even keel.
Is there such a thing as being too straightforward? Too honest? Expressing your opinion so bluntly that you spare no thought for how it may sound to the person you're talking to? You may well get this type of feedback from your partner, who will tell you things so straightforwardly, honestly, and bluntly that it may hurt your feelings. Not that it will stop you from a smart-ass response. And this is the nature of your relationship. You egg each other on, driving each other to excess, escalating the situation for good or for ill, with no holds barred. Your conversations become a contest to see who can say the most shocking thing, who can raise the most eyebrows. The energy between you two is best diverted to activities other than competitive verbal-arrow-slinging. It's time to get physical, and not just in the sack. Get out there. Go horseback riding. Take a spin on a bicycle built for two. Sign up for a martial arts class together and find a useful outlet for all the oomph you two create when you're together. It's a valuable natural resource -- appreciate it and use it wisely! Everyone will benefit if you do.
They say that misery loves company. But in your case it's the company you've been keeping that's been making you miserable. Who gave you the idea that you were small, weak, meek, easy to overlook? Someone in your past gave you quite a working-over, and you still bear the psychic bruises. That's why you've handed your lover the leash and given up control. You let your lover make all the decisions. You spend all your energy going places your sweetie wants to go, ignoring your own desires. But those stifled impulses pop up anyway, in the sullen resentment that you show to your lover. It's so unattractive! But you're stuck in a cycle and can't seem to break free.The key to altering your troublesome situation lies in looking inside yourself. What is it you really want from your life? What do you want from your relationship, from your lover? Define your vague longings and give them a voice. Your lover is willing to listen, but can't guess what you need unless you're clear. That clarity will translate into more respect for you, and better feelings all around.
Now here's a spicy meatball. Others envy your relationship, and they should, because what you have here is something pretty hot. You are equally attuned towards the pleasures of the flesh: sensual, lusty, sexy idylls can occur in the morning, noon, or night. Just being next to your lover is a delicious dream, and as you snuggle and drowse you're in heaven. But out of the bedroom, things aren't as rosy. Though you share many goals and interests, you just aren't as comfortable as you should be by this point in your relationship. You can't relax and let go. Your partner is reluctant to commit. Relax. Though your tendency is to move, to do, to go, your love relationship is a fruit on the vine that just needs a bit of ripening. Must you always be in such a hurry? Keep a lid on your rampaging ambition for once, and just enjoy what you've got. Be in the moment. Don't plan ahead; instead, just think about today. The friction between you will evaporate if you can start a chain reaction: Love, and bask, and laugh, and delight in what you've got instead of chafing.
Your lover is the ocean, and you're helplessly swept away by the waves. You're usually one to handle your affairs with a light, sure touch. Others may swoon or weep in your wake, but you're the one on top, confident and smiling. This particular amour, however, has flipped your switch but good. You were drawn to your sweetie right from the start. You ignored your good sense and went too far, too fast. Sometimes you feel helpless in the grip of a towering passion. Yet your lover isn't similarly enthralled. Have you been suspecting infidelity? Do strangers call your house and hang up when you answer? Is your lover absent for unusual lengths of time?You fear all is lost, but is does not have to be so. However, if you wish to stay where you are, you're going to have to work harder than you ever have before. You will not be able to make this lover dance to your tune; instead, you will have to learn how to play it cool and not reveal how affected you are by your lover's foibles. This is a bird who will not sing in your cage -- but let it fly free and it will surely come back to you.
Your powerful, intense lover turns you on, all right. So much so that you wonder who else has hot pants for your One. Where does your lover go when away from you? What are all those numbers programmed into your sweetie's cell phone, anyway? Who else has their greedy little eyeballs on your special someone? Thus runs your paranoia, and your secretive lover doesn't give you a whole lot of reassurance, either. When you screw up the courage to question, you're made to feel ridiculous. Or worse, your lover splits, vowing to return when you're acting rationally. But how can you act rationally in the face of your overwhelming jealousy? This is a tough nut to crack, because your insecurities melded with your lover's tendency to withhold both information and affection makes for a sticky sitch. And your own tendency to want to talk things out won't work. Instead, try marshaling your independent streak. Your lover's partial to head games, so play a few yourself. Act like you're calm and collected, and soon not only will you feel that way but your lover will behave better too.
That old story about the tortoise and the hare is borne out in your pairing. You are the stolid tortoise, steadfastly working away on your ambitions, while your partner is the nervous hare, always hopping from one thing to another. Not only is that lack of focus annoying, it's distracting. You're not able to get as much done with your mate around, and it bothers you that your sweetie seems to hold you back from reaching your potential, rather than bringing out the best in you. It always seems like you have to be the parent, the one to to take care of business while your partner flits around socializing and having fun. You like the control, but the responsibility is a drag. You keep doing it, however, because if you don't, it doesn't get done.It's time to let loose of the reins of responsibility. Your partner's never going to step up to the plate if you don't start backing off a little. Start with small things -- where are you going to go to dinner? What's the vacation spot for this year? Then move up to more major decisions. It may be a slow process, but it won't move forward at all if you don't start the ball rolling.
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Fortunately, with no difficult conjunctions between you, your relationship is bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there's not a strong connection between you. But it's nice, isn't it, to be able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who choose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Don't you always wonder about them? What do they think will happen if they're not together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation is not a problem for you two; in fact, you may do it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this is surely true of you and your partner. You take great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each be so wrapped up in your own orbit that you suddenly realize that days or even weeks have gone by without you two sharing a full day together.Don't let that happen. Use the previous sections of this report to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two have chosen to be together, and likewise, you can choose to grow together.
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