The Inner War Zone, Projections and Relationship Karma Meters:
You want the nitty-gritty, right?
You're ready to know the real deal when it comes to your own true nature and psychological issues... the ones that prevent you from finding and holding on to that ideal love you dream of.
Reading your Relationship Remedy report will give you that in-depth picture, but these three meters show an at-a-glance view of the lessons you have yet to learn.
Remember, whether your scores on the meters are high or low, you're in good company: We ALL have plenty of emotional baggage that comes from past relationships, our childhoods, and even past lives.
And we ALL have a lot of room for improvement when it comes to changing our lives for the better and improving our relationships, including our love connections.
7-10 Repressed anger, defensiveness and a seriously short fuse can turn your love affairs into an all-out war.
4-6 You've got some issues and inner conflicts to work through, but who doesn't?
0-3 You're so laid back in your relationships it could actually be a problem.
7-10 Seeing all sides of every issue is actually a detriment. You don't know what to believe!
4-6 You know your own mind, but you can see their point too. That's a good thing.
0-3 You see your sweetie as they really are...but do you understand them?
7-10 It's beyond time to work through your baggage from past relationships, or even past lives. Try moving forward!
4-6 Some of your relationship issues have been around for a while. It's time to sort them out now.
0-3 Good news: It's not just a new affair with the same old story. But can you compromise?
Once you've committed to a relationship, it takes a real force of nature to unglue you. Even when your connection has long outlived its utility, you will stick around, plodding along in the same old rut, working and earning, taking comfort in routine and sweeping problems under the rug. Your stubborn refusal to change anything about yourself weighs down those around you as much as it prohibits your forward motion, but it usually takes quite a shocking event for you to perceive this. Jolted out of complacency, your dogmatic and rigid tendencies evaporate, leaving a morass of vulnerability and uncertainty.Once you've found your ideal partner, the cycle starts again, but this time you've got a heads up. You can steer problems off at the pass instead of hoping they'll just go away, and you swear to take a different route to work at least once a week. Handling these issues leaves you free to emphasize your most wonderful qualities: your affectionate, physical expressions of love, your grounded sensuality, your stability and love of comfort. Surround yourself and your sweetie with all the earthly pleasures you can afford.
No one can accuse you of speaking before you think. In fact, you ponder so long and hard about things that your response can be delayed for days. You're the type who thinks of twenty smartass replies, but not until the morning after! Witty repartee is certainly not your strong point, but on the other hand, when you say something, you really mean it. For a very long time. It's easier to turn around the Queen Mary than it is for you to change your mind on something, once it's made up. Your plodding thought processes have no doubt caused some frustration for your previous romantic partners, whose mental synapses were a lot more snappy. They just couldn't sustain interest in your molasses-in-winter conversational style.This is simply how you're wired, and you can no more speed up your thought processes than a whale can fly. Your ideal partner will recognize the value in your practical, methodical thinking and your cautious communications; you mean what you say and that's worth a lot! If any advice can help you, it's to be a little less rigid and inflexible in your thinking. The sky won't fall if you change your mind about something!
Everyone has their price, or so it's said. Yours comes not only in the form of money, but also good meals, fine wines, rich chocolate, red roses, sparkling jewels...you get the idea. You're a most sensual soul, enjoying earthly delights to the best of your ability. And you see nothing wrong with trading a little of this (your good loving) for a little of that (your favorite of the above-named pleasures). This wheeling and dealing may work out for a while, but in the end, it leaves you feeling, well, cheap. There are better ways to value yourself. Your loving is good, very good, so don't underestimate it. You are comfortable and tenderhearted, kind and well-liked by others for your warmth and sympathy. Your ideal lover will easily recognize these fine qualities and won't take advantage of your plodding, patient nature. Instead, they'll appreciate the affectionate and loyal person they've found, and they will indulge you, probably more than is good for you. But, this is one expression of love that you truly understand.
What did your past lovers have a problem with? Well, for starters, you couldn't sit still for more than five minutes. That made dinner-and-a-movie dates quite a challenge. Then there was your short little span of attention, the one that made it impossible for you to really listen and hear when they were pouring their hearts out to you. Finally, they got annoyed with the way you'd just blurt anything out, anytime, anywhere. It got so they couldn't take you out into public for fear of what you'd say.Is there hope for you? Certainly there is. Not that we're blaming your previous partners, but can't you find someone a little more lighthearted, someone who can bring out your playful side and focus on the fast-thinking, quick-talking person instead of on your deficits? Doing any type of physical activity together is good, so keep the jogging shoes or bike close at hand. Intellectual pursuits work, too, since they keep your mind busy. Your key to more successful relationships is to bring the lighter side to the fore.
Are you sitting down? Don't be shocked, but the emotional intimacy you crave can't come from sex alone. Oh, a wild night might give you a brief glimpse of that intensity of closeness that you seek, but truly profound relationships require an alignment of more than just body parts. If you're honest with yourself, you already know this by now. If you're not, you may still be engaging in short-term hookups, seeking to feed a hunger that will never be satisfied in this way. So stop trying.Now, it's a good thing to want a deeply emotional relationship, and you're willing to sacrifice a lot to find it. You seek connection on the most fundamental, basic level, and when you achieve that, your sex life will become truly legendary, for finally you'll be firing on all cylinders. Your ideal partner will be able to meet you on the emotional level, honoring your need for safety and security and appreciating the vulnerability you risk for the sake of the relationship. And -- we're talking ideals, here -- they'll be in good enough shape physically to keep up with you in the bedroom, where you are more than anxious to express your affection!
You are so sure that there won't be enough (love, money, fill in the blank with anything you value) that you cling tenaciously to what little you do have and refuse to let it go. Funny thing is, both love and money like to flow, so when you've got a death grip on them, instead of flowering for you, they wither, and eventually the very thing you valued so much has evaporated from your life. And you ask yourself wonderingly, 'How on earth did that happen?'Your relationships? Well, since you're so anxious about losing the love you have, however imperfect, you tend to stay in relationships long after they're over, simply out of habit, fear of moving on and a misplaced sense of loyalty. Besides that, if you got out of your current relationship, you'd need to get off your butt and find another one, and you don't particularly care for new things. You prefer the tried and true, the known and familiar, the comfort of established routine. New relationships mean compromise, adaptation, establishing new patterns, and you're not so good at that. So you carry on carrying on, ad nauseum. The solution? Loosen your death grip, and resources of all types will move through your life again, with little effort on your part.
You and your generation are upsetting the apple cart when it comes to relationships: You're forging a whole new way of engaging with others on a romantic level. You've grown up to witness a huge surge in the divorce rate, and you resolved early on to do things differently from your parents. You may decline to participate in long-term relationships altogether, or you may completely rewrite the rules of marriage, factoring in the need for freedom within a relationship. Open marriages, having multiple partners at a time or having different partners for different personal needs are all ways of revolutionizing the world of partnership and romance. Your own relationship history will reflect the changes in the world around you. You and those born around the same time as you will leave a mark on the world that will last for many decades.
You and your generation idealize freedom and adventure more than the stability of a single long-term relationship. You are much more likely to enjoy a series of relationships, often with people who are radically different from you -- perhaps people from another country or a completely different culture. You appreciate the exposure to habits and beliefs that diverge from your own, because in this way you learn deeply about people from different places on earth. In your eyes, there is no better way to expand your consciousness than to do it through another person's eyes. Relationships are roads to learning for you; and there are many roads to learning, are there not?
You and your generation were born just before, spent your formative years in or came around just after the revolutionary 1960s, and in many ways, you carry forward this revolutionary energy into the future. You expect a lot from life and from your romantic partners; perfection would suit you just fine! Unfortunately, Real Life rarely delivers perfection, so you may spend your life in fruitless pursuit of it. Yet while you may never find the perfection you seek, you'll make the world a much better place in the meantime. Your relationships should fulfill a practical need as well as romantic ones; your best partnerships will have goals above and beyond your romantic liaison.
You've always much preferred the easy route, haven't you? And while that gives you a laid-back personality and helps you get along with lots of different types of people, you're not much for standing up for yourself or your needs, and you may have stayed in relationships long past their expiration date. After all, you'd much rather avoid confrontation and put up with the discomfort of whatever it is that's bothering you than face it head-on, because conflict scares you -- and you're just not that motivated when it comes to making positive but difficult changes in your life, like breaking up and moving on. The problem is, in love relationships, both people need to have their needs met and their true feelings known. If you're always saying, 'No problem, honey, it's fine, we can do it your way,' how's your honey supposed to know that you're withering away on the inside due to neglect? Your partners in the past may even have lost respect for you over time, because you so rarely took a stand. You might have let them walk all over you just to avoid having to admit that there was a problem and do something about it. So start focusing on your own needs, and speaking your own truth. Becoming self-centered and demanding would create a whole new set of problems, but finding that happy medium -- being your easy-going self while being willing to speak up and confront a problem -- will lead to much greater equality between you and your future lover. They'll respect you a lot more, too.
It's time for you to slow down. You've been racing along with too little thought about where you'll ultimately end up. You're thinking so much about all your future possibilities that you're not present in the present. And you're apt to be ruled by your emotions rather than your intellect, an impetuousness that has affected your love relationships. You've been mighty hard to live with, haven't you? You're difficult to please, you sulk when you could be making nice, you find fault when things should be going just fine. Yep, you've really been putting your past relationships and your former lovers under a microscope, when what you should be examining is yourself. Unresolved issues are what's keeping you dissatisfied. You're repeating a psychodrama from your past, and you're casting your lovers in roles of your own choosing. It's time to unbend a little. Cast yourself free from your old ways and look at your relationships anew. Could be there's a lot there to love if you could just lay off a little.
Are you sitting down? Here's a news flash: Past lovers see you as a great big blabbermouth. You handed them the microphone and invited them to share. They trusted you to be the repository of their most private, heartfelt dreams, hopes and secrets. Then, you turned around and divulged them all to the next pair of ears who would listen. It hurt them. It was betrayal, and you knew it. And yet you couldn't seem to stop doing it, even though you knew you were misbehaving. Your lovers were sweet, optimistic and certainly stuck on you. But all the drifty dreaminess drove you simply mad; the missed appointments, the crossed signals. The truly funny thing is, it was you, not them, who created this problem. Don't depend on logic to find your ideal mate. You're particularly vulnerable to confused thinking. Instead, make a list of the most important qualities you want in a partner, and drag out the list when you encounter a likely candidate. Let that be your tip of the hat to your brain. Then, follow your heart.
What secrets were behind your lovers' dreamy, far-off gaze? You had no idea, really, and the mystery drove you mad. In one way it seemed so romantic to be attached to such compelling, enigmatic sweeties, but you could never figure out all their secrets. Instead, you filled the information void with your fantasies. And therein was your problem. You were not involved in something solid and real at all; instead you were locked in on a shifting miasma. Darned sexy, and lots of fun, but it's like mist, or fog; when you tried to hold on to your lover, they slipped through your hands and refused to be captured. Will you ever gain a more solid hold on your relationships? You've simply got to, because what you've had in the past has drifted away and left you empty. You've been too busy enjoying your fantasy life to try to inject any reality into your relationships. Here's your wake-up call: Start examining what you're doing with a more critical eye. There's much love yet to come for you and it's time to start facing it like an adult.
Pity your past lovers, because you've been awfully hard to live with. You were constantly annoyed with them, viewing their dreamy, drifting nature as lazy and unmotivated. You demanded changes, but what you asked for was both unreasonable and unkind. You chose lovers who couldn't match you intellectually or physically. They weren't the mover and shaker type like you. Instead, you chose yourself sweet, well-meaning, lovable folks who just happened to be a little spacey and emotional. The shame was that you chose with your eyes open, and then you demanded something different.Papering over the problems you've created would be a lot easier if you accepted reality and stopped wishing for something else. Your lovers will always be a little out-there -- and that's part of their charm, is it not? They give you permission to slow down a little. So why don't you? Just relax and allow yourself an idyll. Your ideal lover has much to teach you if you could stop blustering and demanding what you think you want. Embrace the calm. Wallow in the dreaminess. Just let go; there's a sweet release awaiting you in your perfect relationship.
Gotta give you credit: You do mean well. It's just that you generally manage to make a mess out of what you've got. You're never satisfied with what's on your plate; instead you're busy envying others for what they've got going. Not only is your cup half-empty, it's spotted and chipped, too. That being said, your attitude may not be ideal, but your choice of partners usually is. You're able to find yourself someone who's just as dedicated to delicious havoc as you are. You and your lovers have shared a strong and sexy connection. One thing you can say about your relationships is that they are never boring.Nonetheless, you'd like to be a bit more comfortable, and maybe even attached. You have not been able to rely on your past lovers to be there when you need them; that's a skill you've had to develop for yourself. But take it on the chin, darling -- you can get what you want: a relationship that's in flux and exciting, but not completely unstable. Find someone as offbeat as you are and go for it. Indulge your need for drama and variety, and face the fact that it's your very urge for freedom that keeps your relationships interesting.
Why, oh, why do you keep finding yourself in this place? You seem stuck on a dissatisfying treadmill. One affair after the next, it's the same old dance with a new partner. You pull apart, come together, drift away, circle back. Aren't you tired of repeating the same patterns? The chief problem you have with your lovers is that you can't seem to find common ground. And it's true, often you don't have a lot in common; one is driven while the other is dreamy, one wants to stride through the world making big changes, while the other is more inclined to dawdle and drift.But why should you expect things to be any different when you're the architect of this awkwardness? You've been choosing lovers because of your differences, not in spite of them. Begin by looking for someone who has more in common with you. Then, be honest instead of expecting your new sweetie to be a mind reader. Force yourself to slow down a little, to appreciate the subtle and magical connection that is possible.
You are such warm and loving person -- so why is there always a distance between you and your lovers? As hard as you've tried, you haven't been able to get close and comfy with any of them. You admire a wide-open mind and earthy sense of humor, while in return you are admired for your easy way with people and your vast capacity to love. Yet somehow things don't hang together. You still get nervous when you go out on dates. Conversation doesn't flow. You tend to show your social smile rather than melding together easily with your date. Time and attention will melt the frost between you and your ideal partner, should both of you care enough to weather your difficulties. You'll share many things in common, including a passion for the arts and a desire to improve yourselves. If you can learn to travel together down life's path, you will bring out the best in each other and go further than either of you can alone. And it can be done -- two people with such generous spirits should certainly be able to find it in themselves to bend enough to accommodate the needs and desires of each other.
Who ever said self-improvement was fun? You're treading an awfully virtuous path. You are interested in making more of yourself -- advancing your education, moving forward in your career and the like. It's a strategy that'll pay off eventually, but sometimes your relationships have suffer from a lack of air. Being so busy, you've left some partners in the dust, and other relationships have just withered away for lack of attention. Conversation grew stale, and the physical side of your relationships seemed stifling and dull. At times it felt as if you had nothing to say to each other. It's like you'd already eaten dessert and then didn't want to eat the dry, dull meat.To improve your love life, shake things up a little. This shouldn't be too hard for you, given that you're the source of action and movement in all your hookups. Find someone you like and take up a hobby together, something sporty or nature-oriented. Sweat together. Once you add a little life to your pairings, you'll find that your relationships run quite smoothly, since your ideal partner tends to channel your boundless energies into healthy pursuits, while you spur your partner to realize their impossible dreams. The stars are aligned in your favor, but it's you who'll have to get the ball rolling to create the excellent relationship you seek.
I hope you have enjoyed the valuable insight, wisdom and guidance of this astrology report. You might be a little curious about astrology and perhaps wondering how an astrologer can know so much about you!
Astrology is a mathematical system. It's all about applying meaning to numbers, or more specifically, finding meaning in the movements of the planets around the Sun, as viewed from our perspective here on earth. These planetary movements are easily captured and recorded with measurements, calculations, angles and so on.
That's why astrology works so well with computers, whose programs are also based on numbers and formulas. In 'the old days' -- thousands of years ago, when astrology was first recorded -- those early astrologers had to painstakingly observe the heavens and catalog their observations for the next generation of astrologers to build upon. Thank goodness for the computer age! Now we can simply use computers to make those calculations quickly and pull just the applicable pieces of information. Now, astrology is instant, based upon thousands of years of observations obtained through careful methodology.
Interpretations of planetary positions are based in part on ancient Greek and Roman mythology, but your astrological report is unique, describing you and you only. Even in the case of twin siblings, their birth charts differ from each other's in at least a few ways. And besides, no one amounts to just a simple interpretation of their birth chart; everyone's personality is complex. Your astrological report leaves plenty of room for variations based on your free will, personal growth and transformation over a lifetime.
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