The Inner War Zone, Projections and Relationship Karma Meters:
You want the nitty-gritty, right?
You're ready to know the real deal when it comes to your own true nature and psychological issues... the ones that prevent you from finding and holding on to that ideal love you dream of.
Reading your Relationship Remedy report will give you that in-depth picture, but these three meters show an at-a-glance view of the lessons you have yet to learn.
Remember, whether your scores on the meters are high or low, you're in good company: We ALL have plenty of emotional baggage that comes from past relationships, our childhoods, and even past lives.
And we ALL have a lot of room for improvement when it comes to changing our lives for the better and improving our relationships, including our love connections.
7-10 Repressed anger, defensiveness and a seriously short fuse can turn your love affairs into an all-out war.
4-6 You've got some issues and inner conflicts to work through, but who doesn't?
0-3 You're so laid back in your relationships it could actually be a problem.
7-10 Seeing all sides of every issue is actually a detriment. You don't know what to believe!
4-6 You know your own mind, but you can see their point too. That's a good thing.
0-3 You see your sweetie as they really are...but do you understand them?
7-10 It's beyond time to work through your baggage from past relationships, or even past lives. Try moving forward!
4-6 Some of your relationship issues have been around for a while. It's time to sort them out now.
0-3 Good news: It's not just a new affair with the same old story. But can you compromise?
Hey Capricorn, can you drag yourself away from your work station long enough to chat about the troubles in your previous relationship? What? You're too busy right now? Hmm, that sounds like the very same excuse you gave all your former lovers when they wanted a moment or two of your attention. Trouble is, partners require it. And when you are so busy working that you haven't a moment to spare for relationships or other people in your life, well, pretty soon you find yourself without them. Devotion to work and responsibility is one thing, but understand that this leads to a fundamental imbalance in your life, and your love connection suffers for it.Work is all fine and good, but remember, you can't take it with you. In the end, what really matters is how we treat other people. As life draws to a close, not many say, 'I wish I'd spent more Saturdays at work.' No, what they say is, 'I wish I'd shown my loved ones more how much I cared for them.' Don't let this be you, Cappy. Learn to leave your work regularly, like, every day, to truly be with the people who make your life worth living. You've much to offer, so don't withhold it.
Corporate structure? Chains of command? You grasp these concepts all too well. Trouble is, you've tried to import them into your relationships, and as you now realize, it hasn't been a very successful strategy. As a matter of fact, it's been a disaster! Past lovers have tried to complain about your need to always be right, and you stared at them blankly, uncomprehending. Or worse yet, when they tried to explain their feelings, you rolled your eyes at their emotional display. And when they huffed off, you were left holding the empty bag of your relationship. Hmm, who's in charge now?There's a better way. Buried under your hardworking intellect is a warm heart to which you give precious little expression. From time to time it's a good idea to lock the analytical mind off into a closet somewhere and hide the key. Give your softer side a chance to come out. Take a stab at telling someone close how you feel. It will seem like a foreign language at first, but one that your partner readily understands, and delights in.
The thing that makes you feel bad about your previous relationships is how many broken hearts you've left in your wake as your feet hit the road once again. You truly felt sorry to leave, but you just can't stay in one place for too long before you need to move on. The siren song of freedom and adventure is irresistible. The prospect of who's ahead down your road is much more exciting than the idea of sticking around with the one you've got in the bag. That would be boring, and you don't do boring.If only everyone else could rise above this whole silly notion of commitment and fidelity, life would be so much less complicated! For you, anyway. But until the rest of the world catches up with you, you're going to have to make do with the concepts of monogamy and faithfulness. Choosing a partner who's as adventurous and freedom-loving as you are would be a good start. That way, you can both come and go as you please and no one will get jealous! That sounds like heaven on earth for you, doesn't it? And it's not that far out of reach. So keep your ears perked for a partner who fits the bill.
You may seem cool on the outside, but if only they could see how you're smoldering on the inside! Trouble is, you're so devoted to your material ambitions and efforts to get ahead that you don't pay as much attention to your libido as you could, much to the regret of your former partners. You keep your passion well under wraps, for then it can't distract you, or so you think. Are you forgetting how strong the drive toward the continuation of the species truly is? It refuses to stay at bay for long.Where does this leave you in the field of romance? Well, for one thing, you might get involved with someone simply to find a release for all those sexual energies you've been stuffing down. Is this the best possible scenario for you? By no means! A far better bet for you is to look for someone who shares your serious side, and yet is not so involved with their work and ambitions that they have no time left for romance. Success in love will require that you strike a balance between the demands of career and the desires of your relationship. Your whole life will go better once you've found this balance.
You need your relationships, all right. You depend on them. Consequently, you're rarely without a partner, and therein may be a problem: You're more desperate to be in a relationship than you are careful about who you're in it with. You're an optimist with a strong tendency to see whatever you want in a person, and your first impression is often not an accurate reflection of their true self. It's only weeks, months or years later, when they do something mean or nasty, that your eyes are opened wide to the truth. How could you have done this again?Your ability to look on the bright side of things is more a blessing than a curse. You're ultra fair. You always want to do the right thing, which can outweigh the tendency to do the sensible thing. There's something of a judge within you: You gather evidence, you weigh, you balance, and in the end you make a decision based on facts you've considered. This process could work in your relationships, too, if you weren't so antsy to get things underway. When you're starting up with someone new, take your time before making a decision about them. Not everyone is as nice as they seem, and being more cautious initially could save you a lot of heartache later.
Remember that old Rolling Stones song, 'Respectable'? It could have been written about you! Never a hair out of place, or a step out of line; that's you, all right. You know the rules, and you stick to 'em. You make your schedule and stick to that too, and you do NOT miss appointments! Your tact, excellent social awareness, familiarity with protocol and ability to achieve consensus and cooperation are all exemplary. You sound so perfect; how can you possibly have any problems in your relationships? Well, Goody Two Shoes, here's how it is. Remember that old joke about what would happen if two perfect people got together? They'd soon murder each other! Can you blame your past partners for feeling besmirched and imperfect with you around? For wanting to muss up your flawless hair, or scramble some of your appointments? C'mon, lighten up! Throw convention to the wind for a little while and enjoy life more. You thrive in relationships, and when you commit, it's for life. Be wise in selecting a partner who will encourage you to step back and laugh at yourself from time to time. It will be a big relief.
Have you noticed that it's all the rage now to be bisexual? The world has you and your generation to thank for that; you are opening doors on new ways of being, particularly in the sexual arena. Experiences and orientations that have been taboo since forever are coming up for review. You and your peers open these areas confidently, seeking to find out what's going on behind the closed doors. You let the full light fall on subjects that were previously off-limits. In fact, you accept no limits on your sexuality; it's obvious to you that everyone should be free to love whom they want, when they want and how they want. This new way of viewing sexuality is only part of what your generation is called upon to open up; the human psyche is no less a target for your revolutionary ways. Your job is to shine the light on all areas that have been taboo up until now. The effects of the changes started by you and your peers will be long-lasting, indeed.
You and your generation idealize freedom and adventure more than the stability of a single long-term relationship. You are much more likely to enjoy a series of relationships, often with people who are radically different from you -- perhaps people from another country or a completely different culture. You appreciate the exposure to habits and beliefs that diverge from your own, because in this way you learn deeply about people from different places on earth. In your eyes, there is no better way to expand your consciousness than to do it through another person's eyes. Relationships are roads to learning for you; and there are many roads to learning, are there not?
You and your peers will revolutionize the arena of relationships and romances. As a child, you watched partnerships crumble all around you, if not your own parents', then the relationships of your friends' parents; and you decided early on that you wouldn't repeat the same pattern. You take relationships very, very seriously, and for this reason may wait to start dating or getting serious about anyone. You're not in any hurry, which provides you with enough time to understand yourself and your relationship needs. Don't delay too long, though! Fear of relationship can be just as harmful as hooking up too early. Your challenge will be in finding the right balance of independence and partnership, and in knowing how much of your personal energy to expend toward each.
It's lucky for you that you can laugh at yourself. That's a handy quality to have when you find yourself in those inevitable relational difficulties, which often take you completely by surprise. After all, you're generous to a fault, stately, wise and larger than life. It's hard to believe such a wonderful person could ever have problems with partners! You can't see that you appear just a bit egotistic, or that there seems to be an ulterior motive as you charm your way into getting what you want. At other times, you work at cross purposes with yourself. Fate throws obstacles in your way, and you make choices that create chaos and friction. Your exuberance overcomes good sense and commandeers everyone's attention. You get annoyed too easily, impatient with anyone who doesn't see it your way. You can be self-centered, overconfident and so driven to meet the goals you've set that you lose sight of the big picture. And you know what? That big picture is important, because it helps you keep your perspective clear and your priorities straight. Experiences teach you to enjoy others as much as you enjoy yourself.
Your incessant self-flagellation creates problems in your partnerships and other areas, too. One part of you is directed, goal-oriented, a little impetuous, a lot dramatic. The other side is solid, ever-so-practical and, let's be honest, a little stodgy. If only these two sides could work together instead of at constant cross purposes. Your grandiose dreams are soon deflated when Side B -- often in the form of your previous lovers -- stomps on them by pointing out all their flaws and letting in all that bothersome reality. You feel so inadequate and inferior, you can't believe that anyone could actually love you. So, you see neither your good qualities nor a potential love affair, even when it's dangling in your face. No wonder you've experienced friction over the course of your relationships, and frustrations both small and large.But look more deeply at the problems you've been having. Are your lovers trying to bring you down, or give you a hand by helping ensure you turn big ideas into actual plans? You've gotten so wound up with what you view as criticisms that you've stopped listening to the sense behind what your lovers say. Are you playing the part of a rebellious adolescent, agitating against Mommy and Daddy? Act your age, sweetie, and try listening, and acting, like an adult instead. Your partners have much to teach you when you're willing to let go and learn.
Despite your eternal optimism, you've got a troubled relationship history. Your previous matchups have had a way of turning into mismatches -- with your expansive, confident partners running roughshod over playful little you. It's possible that your lovers were significantly older than you, or in some way more worldly -- better educated? more advanced career-wise? Certainly you felt at a disadvantage next to them, more like a student listening to a teacher's discourse or a kid being lectured by a parent than a true partner. That, coupled with your tendency to blurt out anything that crosses your mind, has left you feeling like a child on a leash.Don't give up on relationships, though, because there's a lot your ideal partner can teach you if you're able to walk the fine line between willing acolyte and bullied wretch. Demand respect from others. Determine within yourself that a polite tone of voice is a must, and snide remarks won't be tolerated. Once you begin standing up for yourself, the balance of power in your relationships will shift, and you can start enjoying the pleasant buzz of a stimulating love relationship.
Let's face it, you like to do things the hard way. You're a paragon of focus and concentration, and frankly, the furrow in your brow isn't all that attractive. Your love life's been going downhill for some time, and there's a reason: You keep choosing lovers who can meet you eye-to-eye intellectually, but who are a bit chilly. You interpret their standoffish behavior as a judgment on you, but this says more about you than it does about them. You're far too vulnerable to criticism and negative thinking, taking things personally that aren't meant that way.It doesn't have to be like this. You actually enjoy being challenged, and your ideal lover will provide you with plenty of stimulation on every level. Much will be demanded of you, and you'll have to work hard to deliver. This will polish you, like a rock eroded by a powerful river. No one ever said growth was fun! And grow you will, though you'll remain ever insecure about where your relationship is going. Try to relax a bit, and just enjoy the ride. You're well-placed for the future if you can engage in meaningful communication.
Green has never really suited you. You couldn't help but be so jealous of your past sweeties -- you demanded every bit of their free time, you didn't approve of your their friends. And around the edges of your consciousness lurked the suspicion that you weren't the only one your lover had on a string. It's only natural that you felt that way. You kept choosing lovers with strength: powerful and intense, willful and secretive. Even when there wasn't something unsavory going on, they were apt to withhold information, affection, reassurance. You were left dangling on a string, wondering if you were the only one madly in love.Buck up. Part of the reason you picked those lovers is because you're turned on by the challenge. While other lovers may fall under your spell and allow themselves to be wrapped around your little finger, you prefer a lover who's a much harder nut to crack. You won't be able to control the situation -- but that burning, passionate intensity is what you crave. Tone down your jealous streak. Be a little more savvy when revealing your emotions. An ability to keep your cool is what's going to keep your ideal love relationship on track -- and you're a lot more attractive with a little mystery around you, anyway.
You're pretty secure in your own viewpoint. You're not the wishy-washy type, and if you are, you're absolutely dedicated to each particular opinion -- even if you completely change your mind five minutes later. In short, you've got the courage of conviction, but in your past relationships, this often looked to your partners like smugness, or even emotional neglect. Even when you felt certain that you understood them and their feelings, they were still upset that you just didn't get where they were coming from. If they were the patient, communicative type, they might have kept trying for a while before giving up on you. If they were the short-fused type, they probably left in a huff the first time you gave them that blank look that meant, 'What's the problem, babe?' Sympathy and empathy are essential to a functional intimate relationship. You and your lover are two completely different people, and while you'll each experience life from your own unique perspective, you still need to be able to translate your experiences to each other, and you both need to feel respected and understood. In future relationships, you'll have to work on listening to your partner when they describe their feelings or how they view a particular situation. Even if what they describe sounds utterly foreign -- and therefore negligible -- to you, take them seriously anyway. You may even need to remind yourself on a regular basis that their feelings and perspective are every bit as valid as your own.
You've never been much for compromise, have you? In past relationships, when issues came up between you and your lover, you used whatever tools you had -- sweetly cajoling, arguing, turning a cold shoulder -- to get your own way. But why was having your own way so important? After all, other people have feelings, needs and agendas, too, just like yours. Who decides which person's need is the most important one in any given moment? That's a perennial question for all relationships, and except in the one between an infant and its caretaker, the answer isn't as simple as 'I decide, and my needs always come first.' Relationships, after all, should be about give and take. Sometimes you get your way; sometimes your lover does. Insisting on always getting your way not only makes you look uncomfortably similar to that aforementioned infant, it could actually lead to loneliness. After all, if it's a choice between getting your way or bailing out of the relationship, well, you'll end up either with a partner who's a pushover or sleeping alone. If you want a well-functioning, long-term relationship, you'll have to learn to choose your battles. The art of compromise is the perfect place to start your lessons, because if you give your lover a little, they'll probably want to give back a lot. You'll feel a lot better once you learn to step back and let someone else take reins from time to time.
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